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does anyone else feel like they could just up and walk out?

im a sahm, 5 yr old, 9 week old, married since july '10. i love my kids, love my husband, but for reason, i feel like i could just walk away from it all.
we're having money issues, no fault of his own, he is doing his best.
my 5 yr old is so hard to deal with. hes angry, vindictive, when you tell him no, no matter what it is, he hits, kicks, headbutts, throws things, falls on the ground and has a fit. and that is anywhere, not just at home. i refuse to take him out in public, i can't handle him when we are out and he acts up and i have the baby, i can't just walk away and chase him through the parking lots. yes, he runs through parking lots. he has also jumped out of my truck while it was sorta moving<2 mph> just b/c he didn't want to leave grandmas work.
he is starting some counciling at a behavior place, but right now its just intake and it will take for ever for him to actually start the therapy.

its too cold out to take them out, we have no money to take him anywhere.
maybe im just depressed b/c of the weather, but whatever............

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Asked by mama2bof2 at 10:27 AM on Feb. 4, 2011 in Relationships

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  • It sounds like you're overwhelmed and feeling a bit stuck. The weather doesn't help anything. I'm sorry, mama. Best of luck to you with the counseling - I hope it helps make things easier for all of you.

    When you get down, try to think of the good things; even if they are relatively small, focusing on the positive can really help your overall outlook.

    Answer by Scuba at 10:32 AM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • you sound like you have lost yourself
    no time for you
    when you have to add - take a shower- to your list of to do things
    you know there is nothing for you left
    it takes its toll
    i have a three and a half year old that has autism, taking her out in public is nearly always a tantrum, do not know how mant grocery carts i have just left in the store full of food items because i had to leave
    people staring at me with my daughter having an autism meltdown
    maybe as they stare and roll their eyes they could open the door at least

    hang in there
    try to get any time to do something for yourself
    even taking shower can be a help to feel stronger
    i know how you feel, some days taking a pee whithout interruption is a treat
    when there is NO time for yourself, it makes you want to curl up and give up

    Answer by fiatpax at 10:33 AM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • You are taking steps in the right direction. Money is tight for everyone these days, you need to hang in there. Your son is probably competing for attention with the baby and sensing your stress. Children have really good radar and can be very reactive to things like that. Try to find someone to watch the baby for an hour. Friend, dad, grandma...and take him to the library on a special date just with some alone time with you. Do a puzzle there, read a book to him that he picks out... find a way to put a little fun back in your life!

    Things will turn around, it just takes time, try to find the positives in your day no matter how small they may seem. They do add up!

    Answer by spottedpony at 10:50 AM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • i cant say i blame you. and at first i saw 9weekold so i thought post partum depression, but it sounds like everything added up. things WILL get better just hang in there.

    Answer by Mrs.L.Mita at 10:54 AM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • i know they will, im just at a point now where i just don't give two shits.....kwim?
    it is this time of yr also, i do have depression all the time, this time of year just seems to make it worse, and i turn into a huge bitch! im actually surprised dh come home after work! lol

    Comment by mama2bof2 (original poster) at 10:58 AM on Feb. 4, 2011

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