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maraige first?

talking with my MIL and reading some posts how do you feel and why?

Marraige first or your child(ren) first??

sorry i was not clear which do you put first?


Asked by proudmom611 at 12:58 PM on Feb. 4, 2011 in Relationships

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Answers (13)
  • My kids!!! Always my kids!

    Answer by klhoe at 1:32 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • For me my children are #1 with DH following a close 2nd

    Answer by Charis76 at 1:05 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • my children will ALWAYS come before my husband

    Answer by josiesmommy00 at 1:08 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • Marriage should be #1. It is your commitment for life. There is nothing better that you can show your children than loving your SO.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:13 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • they should be 50/50. both should be your number one priority

    Answer by momofone725 at 1:01 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • Since I've never been married, it's always been my dd first. If I were to get married, then it would be a delicate balance of being a great mom and a great wife.

    Answer by michelle121003 at 1:05 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • Hmm, do you mean get married before having children? Or are you asking which I put first?

    Answer by 1smartcookie at 1:12 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • which do you put first no matter what?

    Comment by proudmom611 (original poster) at 1:14 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • see and i agree my marriage happened first but my child always comes first. MIL thinks marriage should come first... this is her second marriage..wonder how that worked out for her first marriage?

    Comment by proudmom611 (original poster) at 1:36 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • My marriage comes first, without a healthy marriage we aren't going to be effective parents. Now that's not saying that hub and I ignored our kids needs. Our children haven't wanted for anything. They have always been very loved and very secure. But hub and I went on dates, left the kids with grandparents for a few days..etc...My parents put their marriage first, and it was the most wonderful thing to watch growing up. I never had any concerns about my parents divorcing. They were always a united front in partnership and parenting. Hub and I want our kids to know the same joys

    Answer by Zakysmommy at 1:37 PM on Feb. 4, 2011