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When is the best time to tell a boy about sex? adult content

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mysticpurple

Asked by mysticpurple at 7:35 PM on Feb. 4, 2011 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • Before 9.

    I was talking at his level since he was a toddler. I completely filled him in on the whole works by age 10.
    BradenIsMySon

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 7:37 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • I don't believe it should just be "the sex talk", you lay the groundwork throughout life and add information as questions come up and when it is age appropriate.

    My DS is 5 and knows boys have a penis, girls have a vagina, we will cross the other bridges as we need to
    peanutsmommy1

    Answer by peanutsmommy1 at 7:39 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • by 11 for sure if not before
    noelliekodasmum

    Answer by noelliekodasmum at 7:56 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • If he is between 9-12, he probably already know a lot about sex already from his friends.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 8:03 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • from the time he is a toddler he should be taught that no one should touch his genitals and he should tell mom and dad if it happens. as time goes on you gradually give more info that is age appropriate. it is never too early imo.
    gwen20

    Answer by gwen20 at 8:11 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • When they're curious about it. Whether it's when their 3 or 30 .. They should know the honest truth when they start asking the honest questions. Now, if a child ends up being 13 and still hasn't inquired about sex then you need to start asking them about what they know. Sure they'll be embarrassed and want to run away, but it's important to educate them to the fullest. ABOUT EVERYTHING good and bad about sex.
    JazzlikeMraz

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 9:45 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • i agree with the last 2 replies
    san78

    Answer by san78 at 6:33 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • This is not "a talk". It is a series of conversations, beginning practically at birth, by teaching a child the proper names for body parts and their functions. Keep an eye open for teachable moments, like a pregnant relative or new puppies on the block.
    rkoloms

    Answer by rkoloms at 6:48 AM on Feb. 6, 2011

  • Here is an article about talking to your child about puberty that might be helpful http://www.ehow.com/how_5320080_talk-child-puberty.html


    Also some good books to use which goes along with the conversation http://astore.amazon.com/wwwcjkidzcom3-20?%5Fencoding=UTF8&node=9    Books are helpful in conjuction with the conversation since some kids may be too embarassed to ask questions, and they can refer to the book.

    momjs

    Answer by momjs at 6:26 PM on Feb. 6, 2011

  • After you have the talk you should watch the Lifetime movie "She's Too Young" with him. Especially if he is in middle school. I watched this with my son. It exposes the real world of STD's. Marcia Gay Harden stars as the mother in this movie. It may be a little uneasy to watch this with your child, but the more open/honest you are the more peace of mind you will have that you have covered your bases.
    mdsmes

    Answer by mdsmes at 7:49 PM on Feb. 6, 2011

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