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Would you do this?

have your tubal reversed and attempt to try to concieve with your new husband so he can have the chance to have children of his own? I know a lady who did this. She had three children before with her first husband and they decided they were done so she had a tubal, but decided she would try to concieve with new husband? Would you be willing to do this for your new love? Would it matter if he already had children of his own? Just curious.

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Asked by 2boysnaprincess at 9:48 PM on Feb. 4, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Yes i would. I am even thinking about doing it with my own husband. We have five kids together. I got my tubes tied 5 and a half years ago. But i would love to have another one.

    Answer by butterflymom269 at 9:50 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • I would definitely consider it.

    Answer by tootoobusy at 9:50 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • no

    Answer by admckenzie at 9:57 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • No. I would make sure he knew this fact before I started a serious permanent relationship with him.

    Answer by leksismommy at 9:58 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • Absolutely. Just because I was "done" having children in a previous relationship doesn't mean I wouldn't want to have a child with my new husband. I thought I was done until I remarried - I'm so thankful we were able to have one of "ours" in addition to our other children.

    Answer by Scuba at 10:17 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • I knew a lady who did this, and she is still trying to concieve. She has 2 children already.

    Answer by free1 at 10:23 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • No. I refuse to have children with different matter what. If I ever end up not with my DH..the next guy will know I am done way before we get serious.

    Answer by ashisamom at 10:26 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • Yes. Life changes and with that, you have to evolve.
    Even if we both had children from other relationships, why would I not try to have a child from this one?

    Answer by Jademom07 at 10:26 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • Yes, when I was with my ex husband I was dead set on only having children with him - I use to tell myself even if someday we weren't together I was done having kids but now 4 years after splitting from him I know I want more children and if I had gotten a tubal I wouldn't hesitate to get it reversed in order to have more children with a new husband.

    Answer by momof2inCT2007 at 10:35 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

  • Probably not. And I would make sure he knew that before we got serious.

    Answer by montanagal2005 at 11:44 PM on Feb. 4, 2011

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