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how can you tell you SIL that she is not helping with the baby shower?

My SIL wants to plan my baby shower that is on march 20th. i have to send invites out all across the country and she has not been over to help plan what so ever she is kind of controlling and i dont want to cause conflict. but shes not helping what should i do how can i handle this were im not in trouble with my finances family?

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Asked by blinkys11 at 12:34 AM on Feb. 5, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Have your fiancee deal with it. he should see that she is not helping.

    Answer by Jademom07 at 12:39 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • Plan a girls night to have her come over and help out, maybe email (to everyone involved) an itinerary of what you plan to work on that night, hopefully she'll get the hint.


    Answer by skittles1108 at 12:40 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • i have tryed asking her to come over many times but shes to busy .... shes says we have time my farthest invite is florida.

    Comment by blinkys11 (original poster) at 12:46 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • Be the little red hen and do it yourself. Except any and all help you can. If she is insulted act as if you are sorry and can not possibly know why. Be the little red hen. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Answer by rosetoes at 3:00 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • Id accept whatever she offered, and then ignore it, i wouldnt keep telling her about it. If she isnt willing to come over to help, then her loss.

    I wouldnt tell her straight up though "you arent helping anymore" thats hurting and would cause problems with your Fiance and his family.

    Answer by MomNbabyGirl009 at 3:08 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • When you are ready to do some of it let her know and invite her to join you. Tell her a time and place. Then go ahead and do that task, like invitations. Then when it's time to do the next task give her the same "heads up". Then, at least, you can say you let her know during the whole time what was going on. GL

    Answer by elizabr at 8:43 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

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