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Did your kids develope differently?

I was looking through pictures of my 1st born and realizing he was doing things at 3 months my 2nd born isn't doing yet at 4 1/2 months. My 4 month old is still within his milestones so I think he's on a normal track and maybe my 1st born is a fast learner? Is it because my 2nd born doesn't get as much attention? My 2 year old is, I think, ahead of most in his age group. I'm not in any way trying to rush my baby...I would love for him to stay 2 weeks old, but I just wanted to know if this is normal.

I'm having a slight "am I screwing up my kid?" moment.

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Asked by sunshine58103 at 8:53 AM on Feb. 5, 2011 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • My daughter was into developing her motor skills prior to language. She walked at 8 months, learned to buckle her seat belt by 1.5 yr, and insisted on doing the monkey bars. She learned to ride a bike in 10 minutes. She was a natural. My son concentrated on language. Motor skills were not his thing. He still eats with his hands if we aren't looking. He didn't walk until 14.5 months. Toddlers concentrate on either motor skill or language at one time. They don't do both at the same time, but they eventually catch up.

    Answer by robinkane at 9:02 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • I have sons a year apart and they are developing very differntly my first born did alot more at certain ages but my second born crawled and walked before the first. and my first born talked and did alot more stuff then my second. I think its different with every baby!

    Answer by Littleguysmommy at 9:17 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • My oldest was early with teeth and a loft of different things....and my next (twin boys) are slow with words and sentences, but they are SO SMART on the inside....they've picked locks and stuff like that...mechanically minded lol

    Answer by CABlonde at 9:19 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • My 2nd born just seems good at sleeping. LOL! Thank you for the reassurance. You would think these stupid little worried moments would go away after having your first, but then there seems to be other stuff that comes up!

    Comment by sunshine58103 (original poster) at 9:22 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • All of my kids developed differently. My oldest walked at 10.5 months, my younger ones didn't even crawl at 9 months (walked @ 16-18m), my oldest didn't speak real words until after 2.5 years, didn't talk in sentences until 3-3.5 my younger ones spoke clear sentences by 2 years old. They potty trained at 2.5, 16m, 3.5, 19m. Oldest got first tooth at 7m, the younger ones didn't start cutting teeth until 11months old. I have "am I screwing up my child moments" at least once a day. It was horrible when my 5th child was born because I felt like I didn't spend enough time with her.

    Answer by matthewscandi at 9:31 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • There is a wide range of what normal is. As long as they fall in the range relax and enjoy!!

    Answer by elizabr at 9:38 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • Definitely, my 1st son was speech delayed, and late to sit up, and later to do pretty much everything, my 2nd son was speaking sentences by 1 year, it was crazy, and he has caught on to pretty nuch everything way quicker than my first child.

    Answer by AshleyBDG at 9:45 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • My first two were almost the same. My 2nd seemed floppier longer, my first held his head up really well from the beginning and seemed a lot steadier overall, but my 2nd ended up walking a month earlier even though she was floppy for so long. Otherwise they rolled over, sat up, smiled, talked all around the same ages. My 3rd is my super baby, he rolled over 3 months earlier (2 months instead of 5 months, and back to belly first instead of belly to back) he sat up well at 5 months, the others I had to help them sit up for their 6 month pictures. He crawled at 6 months, they weren't crawling until 9 months. So my 3rd has been my advanced one and I'm sure he's not getting as much individual attention as the first 2. I don't think you need to worry that you aren't doing as much, I think babies develop differently and it doesn't have a whole lot to do with parenting as long as they are given opportunity to move around.

    Answer by mybella81 at 11:35 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • ALL children develop on their own schedule.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 11:48 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • ~*YES*~... each child is different!!!

    Eldest son --- wasn't walking on his own until after his first birthday, but had the vocabulary of a college student by kindergarten, he was talking like a mini adult early on, scored 220 on IQ tests I think it was 2nd or 3rd grade? Can't remember

    Middle son --- walking by 9 months old (used to freak me out to see a kid with a large head and about 2 feet tall), was talking early on, and did everything fast...he is intelligent and great with school work, and gets bored easily!!!

    Youngest son --- walking by 9 and a 1/2 months, and at three going on 4 needs a speech therapist! He is smart and knows all he needs to start school, he does basic math (add and subtract), but will not talk properly... drives me nuts

    Answer by MommaClark3 at 12:25 PM on Feb. 5, 2011

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