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toddler 24 months

my 2 year old acts up EVERY NIGHTwhen i bring her home from daycare..around 6:30..she is,of course, perfectwith the babysitter...she throwsher food allover the floor, everynight..she screams, hits me etc. i feel so guilty because we aregoing thru a divorce.we have ben seperated for 6 months..she is adjusting..but wont do anything for me..the babysitter gets her to do it all..

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:38 AM on Feb. 5, 2011 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Stay calm and be consistent in what is expected of her. If she throws food then mealtime is over. She can make up for it at the next meal. Have a consequence for the hitting and screaming. Discuss it with her sitter and have the same consequences as her. It is a stressful time for your little one, and you. But the best thing you can do is stay calm and firm. Make sure she gets praise when she does things right and gets lots of cuddling. GL

    Answer by elizabr at 9:48 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • She is demonstrating signs of insecurity at home. She feels safe at the baby sitter's because things are the same there. She may even be demonstrating signs of anger toward you. Little children are greatly affected by such significant changes in their lives and will react accordingly. She misses her daddy and the stabilizing influence he was in her life, even if you didn't think he was being a good daddy. She saw him in quite a different light. Daddy is usually baby's hero, and it seems to be even more true with baby girls.

    Answer by NannyB. at 9:59 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • along with the pp's answer, set a schedule at home. she's a girl, she's going to act on how you feel. they're more in tune with mommy than you think, you can especially notice this during your period. during that time, daughters tend to act up or be more emotional. granted, it won't fix everything, setting a schedule will help her feel more secure, safe, and should help with her frustrations.

    Answer by armywife43 at 10:01 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • Im not trying to sound mean or anything, but dont let her act the way she does without some kind of consequence. My uncle did the same with his boys and always said "its cause we seperated they act the way they do" and they are total mess ups now. Just keep your head straight and dont let her get too out of line. I know shes still small but they learn more now then when they get old enough to really talk back and stuff.

    And all the bad stuff those boys did, my uncle never did anything at all! Every excuse is cause they seperated.

    Answer by BrittanyD07 at 10:11 AM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • This is very normal. Two year olds are not very good at expressing emotions, and tend to act out.

    Hug her, tell you that you love and and explain correct behavior.

    Answer by rkoloms at 6:24 AM on Feb. 6, 2011

  • It seems like you all are going through a lot. It's normal for kids to let our their feelings on the person they are closest to. And heck no one is at their best at the end of the day. All the kids I know get a little wild in the evenings. Try not to take it personally. You are clearly doing the best you can. I like a lot of the advice here to have a schedule and to show her that her behavior has consequences. It's not fun to be the tough mom (especially if you don't see her much during the day), but kids really feel safer if they know the boundaries. And don't expect things to get better immediately - it might take a while. You could also talk with the babysitter - she might have some insight or suggestions. After being tough, don't forget to make time to show her how much you love her, and get down and play with her on her level with what she's interested in. You both will feel better.

    Answer by Sebbiemama at 3:15 PM on Feb. 6, 2011

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