I'm sorry, but this is a total rant over something that I keep thinking about.
Now that I've become a mother I've been exposed to the way other parents are with their children in ways that I hadn't previously been aware of. And I'm appalled! Now, there are definitely some parents who obviously parent their children the right way. And that's awesome! But I keep thinking back to this mom at the mall.
We were waiting our turn for one of those little carousels (the ones that hold 3 kids) And a lady walked up, put a dollar in for the ride, and put her son on. This other lady watches her daughter jump up on it and literally shove this other kid off onto the ground, while the ride was moving. Luckily he didn't get hurt, but he could have potentially gotten seriously injured. As someone who watched a child DIE once from falling underneath one (something I've remembered for the last 21 years since it happened, I was 5) I could not believe this. The mother of the daughter WATCHED her daughter do this and said absolutely nothing. The mom of the little boy ran to her son and just looked at the other mom, obviously upset, but didn't say anything. They waited for another turn, after she had just paid for her son to get knocked off the ride. The little girl's brother even commented on how his sister was being so mean, but the mom didn't even apologize. I almost bitched the other mom out myself. If she had pushed my son off, she'd have heard it from me.
My question is...has anyone else witnessed parents allowing this sort of behavior? Is it as common as it's starting to seem to me?
I've kept my mouth shut so far, but I'm the type of person who stands up when they witness someone mistreating someone else, and I have a feeling it won't be long before I end up telling someone off. The reason I haven't yet is because of the children that are around, but I've just about seen enough and if someone allows their child to hurt mine, I'm gonna go off. Ugh. What is wrong with some people?
This is just one instance of many that I've witnessed.
I have definitely been a witness to some meanness going on that parents aren't stopping. I am not saying that my way is the right way, just saying how I raise my own children, they would be in some serious crap if one of them acted like that.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 8:24 PM on Feb. 5, 2011
Answer by aliceryannesmom at 8:40 PM on Feb. 5, 2011
Answer by dancer at 8:38 PM on Feb. 5, 2011
Answer by ashisamom at 8:22 PM on Feb. 5, 2011
Answer by BridgetC140 at 8:43 PM on Feb. 5, 2011
AMEN! What happened to "please" and "thankyou" and yes and no sir and maam! And people have told me a lot that I am too old fashioned because my children have to speak that way. BS! If my 5 or 3 year old accidently step on your toe, they say sorry and excuse me. MAY I please have a drink? If I had forgotten to say those things, my butt would have been spanked. Now children are running over other children who are trying to play! Wow.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 8:48 PM on Feb. 5, 2011
Answer by skitNbearsmom at 8:28 PM on Feb. 5, 2011
I think it's apart of learning social behaviors. If the parents aren't saying or doing anything to stop the behavior, then the kids don't actually know that it's wrong. In situations like the one you mentioned, I blame the parents totally.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 8:31 PM on Feb. 5, 2011
My friends daughter, she bites one of my kids literally every time she comes over. She was coming over about 3 to 4 times a week. I eventually had to tell the mama that she couldn't come over anymore. She bit my 3 year old daughter (the other little one is 3 also) and the mama just kept saying "no". The little girl wouldn't let up and the mama just sat there! Just as I was reaching down to pry her off, my daughter slapped her in the back of her head. The mama got mad at me for not disciplining my own child but you know what, I don't feel like my child was in the wrong. She had a toy, the other child wanted it. When in that situation I make my own children give their friends their toys because they are their guests and should be treated as such. She told her daughter no she couldn't have the toy.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 8:39 PM on Feb. 5, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 8:46 PM on Feb. 5, 2011