Me and my ex were together for 18 years--12 married..since I was 14 and he was 18...Over the years things got pretty bad between us..he became very controlling and verbally and mentally abusive..A lot of it had to do with the fact that I cheated on him when I was 17 before we were married, in which he didn't find out about it until we had been married for 7 years.. and he couldn't let it go..
With being pretty much confined to the house and work I began chatting online with this guy I met on an online game..and my ex found out about it ..so I ended the chatting...This basically added fuel to the fire...Even though I never cheated on my husband the whole time we were married, I basically blew the trust we had..things escalated and we ended up divorcing...
Awhile after we split I started talking to the guy online again and we ended up starting a relationship and had a baby together...and then I found out he was cheating on me for like 2 years...so we broke up..that was over a year ago..
Me and my exhusband have been divorced for over 4 years now, and recently I have seen a change in him...good changes..and I like it..I have changed a lot as well..We see each other a lot..he gets the kids (we have 4) every weekend and we are very open with visitation..He is a really great dad now.
I can feel myself falling for him again...which is shocking to me...We had an ugly divorce..and the love I felt for him was pretty much destroyed...I mean I will always care for him as the father of my kids...but it's different now...something more...and I don't know what to do...am I crazy? Am I setting myself up for failure again? I have had only the 2 longterm relationships my whole life..my exhusband and my exfiance...my exhusband was my first love... first everything...
I've spoken to him about this...and asked him if nothing else can we be friends..which after everything that has happened is a great step...he says he has thought about getting back together with me but realized that he may never be able to trust me...so we agreed to be friends...but what the hell am I suppose to do about these feelings that are growing more and more everyday? I don't know what to do...please help?
And please don't judge...please...
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