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i have always wondered why some men have absolutely nothing to do with their bio kids but;

they will treat their girlfriend's kids really well. they even raise them as theirs! i have seen it time and time again throughout my lifetime and it still boggles my mind.

 
gwen20

Asked by gwen20 at 11:54 PM on Feb. 5, 2011 in General Parenting

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Answers (15)
  • I would actually give men a bit more credit. They do not develop a bond with a child from carrying him or her for nine months. Instead, they develop a bond with children by interacting with them. If they do not have a relationship with their biological children from seeing them regularly, they do not really feel that close connection. Just my opinion....

    blueberry1

    Answer by blueberry1 at 12:04 AM on Feb. 6, 2011

  • I ask that same question all the time. I don't get it either..
    Lady1ce

    Answer by Lady1ce at 11:58 PM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • badThat is just sad to me.

    Anon344

    Answer by Anon344 at 11:57 PM on Feb. 5, 2011

  • I don't think that they care as much about their girlfriends kids as he'd like her to think.  I think it's a ploy to look better to the girlfriend.

    MrsHouston47302

    Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 12:07 AM on Feb. 6, 2011

  • Stuff like this makes me upset. I have a 12yo brother whose only positive male influence is my husband. Hubby and I live over a thousand miles away but his father lives down the block and only sees him when my mother ABSOLUTELY HAS to go out of town. He spends all his time and money on his new wife's children. He'll buy Jordans and name brand clothes for them and tell my brother that he cant afford any school supplies for him. GRRRR!!!! Did i forget to mention he forgot my brother's birthday? THATS HIS FIRST BORN CHILD! ugh! okay okay... i'm done. sorry for the ranting!
    BrookeKRod

    Answer by BrookeKRod at 12:15 AM on Feb. 6, 2011

  • Because he lacks character, responsibility, and basic morals.....Women, stay away from men who have children they are neglecting....this should be common sense!
    Anna92464

    Answer by Anna92464 at 12:37 AM on Feb. 6, 2011

  • My real father took care of his step children and loved them while he abused me when he did have me the one month every summer (he lived in a different state)..i havent seen him since i was 11 and now im an adult. My mother always said, never be sorry that you avoided an abusive as*hole in your life, she found me a better dad and it was hard at first but as i got older i realized all my real father was to me was my sperm donor and im glad he wanted nothing to do with me, alot less drama lol.
    Bobbysgurl

    Answer by Bobbysgurl at 12:38 AM on Feb. 6, 2011

  • it is my very personal belief that most guys don´t really love THEIR kids, they love a woman, and love that woman´s kids. If he falls out of love with a woman....
    Belovedmoonpixi

    Answer by Belovedmoonpixi at 12:00 AM on Feb. 6, 2011

  • i think its because sex is all that really matters to most men -- so --- who ever they want sex with they are nice - good towards her kids cause that keeps the sex coming in their twisted minds , ive seen it for years also.
    letstalk747

    Answer by letstalk747 at 12:00 AM on Feb. 6, 2011

  • out of sight = out of mind
    SWEETPEAS3MOM

    Answer by SWEETPEAS3MOM at 12:03 AM on Feb. 6, 2011

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