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my 12 month old can be a little meanie butt!

granted she is the youngest of three sisters, her older sisters are 2 and 4. the mean-ness is usually directed toward the 2 year old, they are 13 months apart so shes interested in all the same things as her older sister. my 2 year old also does not understand sharing yet although ive been trying to work with her on that, too. honestly i have seen both of them hit eachother, and i can reason with the 2 year old but how in the heck do i teach a 12 month old not to hit???

for example, the other day the youngest grabbed one of the 2 year olds lovies, in the middle of a tantrum over juice. my 2 year old reacted by hitting her on the head like 3 times (not very hard, but still she had bad intentions) and the 1 year old pulled the 2 year olds hair and hit her with her sippy cup!

she also sometimes grabs peoples hair, faces, shirts, and pulls on it even after i say no. and i know its out of meanness because she gets even madder when i firmly tell her no, so she grabs harder and faster. i call her my grabby child. she does have a stubborn attitude about her already. shes trying to do things already that shes not ready for, like climbing on the couch and getting so upset when she cant. she can walk now & is into evvvvverything!

what can i do about all this hitting & pulling on people??


Asked by Anonymous at 7:59 AM on Feb. 6, 2011 in Toddlers (1-2)

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Answers (4)
  • Time out for 1 min. as long as she sits in/on a little area let it count. Then tell her why she is time out, then have her say sorry and a hug. THis was wonders with my oldest at that age, a min. was killer for her. There will be a lot of time outing at first, but it will help.
    And this would work with the 2 yo as well, just do 2 min., the 2yo should be able to say a little of why, like I was angry.
    1 min per age.
    Time out works because it gives the child a chance to calm down and get themselves under control as well as hate it. And you give your child words to express why they are angry, so keep the why simple and to the point, in time they will be able to say why completely.
    YOu could also talk about alternative things to do, when you fell angry or what ever, or when you sister does x you could do y etc. .. .

    Answer by DevilInPigtails at 8:27 AM on Feb. 6, 2011

  • Along with the above and putting her in her playpen make sure they are all getting one on one time with you and your SO also.

    Answer by elizabr at 10:05 AM on Feb. 6, 2011

  • oops, didnt mean to hit the anon button?? oh well.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 8:00 AM on Feb. 6, 2011

  • btw, re-direction almost always fails with her! she just throws a mini-tantrum. i eventually give up and put her in her playpen for a few minutes.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 8:00 AM on Feb. 6, 2011