Ok..so this has nothing to do with wanting to get drunk or party "too hard"..but I'm only 31 (I know, not old yet)but do any of you women in your 30's feel like you want to go out and party a little before you get older? My husband is wonderful--except he never wants to go out and socialize..I used to work in nightclubs years ago..and I enjoy socializing, dressing up, etc...maybe it's just me..but does any of you have this problem? Like your husband never wants to go out and "have fun?" He says.."Why do we need to go out 'clubbin' and get hammered?" I told him.."I don't want to get hammered, I just miss going out and socializing, having a few drinks, dressing up nice, etc..." He just says, "why? We are a family, we don't need to do those things." Sigh..(no we are not religious either)...I guess my issue is that I have all these wonderful "dress up shoes/clothes" but never gets to "use them"...lol...I just feel that 10 years will go buy and I will one day try to make up for having fun when I'm much older. By the way, my hubby is one year YOUNGER then me.and he is not actually the boring type..but he never seems to just want to go out and have drinks and have fun at a few bars sometimes. I think part of my issue is that I'm a stay at home mom..so I feel that I want something to look forward to once in awhile. He does work 12 hour days and also works on Sat. We have a GOOD marriage, etc. I tell him.."women sometimes want to just dress up nice and feel like a "women"...take us out, socialize. (Buy the way, I'm not the spoiled type..and this has nothing to do with wanting more "attention"). I guess working at night clubs off and on for the last decade I miss the "party scene"---note--I NEVER is the type to get drunk or even do drugs..so it isn't that. I just feel that all my other friends (our age), go out and enjoy a bit of party time every now and then..while we just stay home and not do much. We DO have one child, and babysitting is never an issue. He is just sort of "non-social"--although he loves to do "outdoor recreational stuff"..I just wish we could go out and "have more fun". Sigh...does any of you go through this? AGain, being in our 30's is YOUNG..lol...I just get a bit scared that my youth will go buy, and by the time I'm in my late 40's and 50's and will look back and wish I had more fun...and even when we were in our 20's--he wans't much of a "going out and socializing" type person..:( I told him I just want to go out, listen to music, dress up, and have some fun...heck--I don't even NEED a drink!
Sooooooo...anyone else feel this way? I guess it sort of hits you when you turn 30...lol...I know age is only a number...but I just want more fun time, before we both turn too old.lol...sorry I guess I'm just venting....hugs and thank you to all who responds. ;)
Some things to consider: Our daughter is 10 , so babysitting is not an issue.
-When I use to bar tend, he would sometimes visit me--but it would take a lot of begging to get him to go lol
-We don't have a lot of family here since we moved 4 years ago.
-He IS the kind of guy who worries about spending a lot of "money"--but we are not broke.
-Most of our close friends that we DO have are all busy having babies so they are too busy to go out right now..lol
-He always makes the exuse that "I dont like a lot of people out here to hang around with"..sigh...
-he did mention one time that he doesn't like going around huge crwods--but he isn't totally "anti-social"
-I'm not a huge party animal--never was really, but I think working in the entertainment business for years--makes me miss it now...especially seeing all my "facebook friends" who ARE in thier 30's talk about how much "fun" they had over the weekend--makes me jealous and makes me feel like I'm "missing out." Sigh
-What's sad is that I know for a fact, that if we lived near his family again--he would most likely want to go out more...where out here, he never does at all now.
-And I never bug him by the way...heck..even my sisters who are older then me (but live states away)--even still go out and party once in awhile. :( He says I make it a big deal...but I dont think I am not.Answer Question
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