Background - my husband works in the oilfield -- and we are all one big family. Wives know and support each other, we all know each other, etc.
A few years ago DH worked for a different company - and I knew his boss there. We were all like, well - Family.. anyhow, this boss moved on to a bigger and better company then spent a year trying to recruit DH -- it meant a move 8 hours away -- major decision. So the boss called me one day and wanted to know why DH hadn't accepted his offer yet -- I told him it was money AND that *I* had questions and concerns I wanted answered before I would vote for it.... So he brought us out and all 3 of us sat down for a couple hours and hammered out all the questions and answers. We accepted the offer and moved. The boss told me that if I ever had any concerns/worries/questions to let him know and he's sit down with me , because he believes that his guys having the support of their family is important to everyone's success.
Side Note: this boss was brought here to clean up a failing yard
Now, 6 months later -- all hell is breaking loose (cleaning up process). DH (along with 5 others that this boss brought out here) are all losing faith.... it almost seems like the boss is turning his back on them.. They're all freaked out (one even threatened to quit). I've been telling them and telling them to go talk to him - BECAUSE I'm certain there is something going on that we aren't aware of AND that this guy (the boss) is a man of good character and moral value. But, he's also a tuff-a$$ boss --- and they are a lil intimidated by him.... But I'm not.
So the opportunity came up today for me to go to lunch with the boss ..... I did. And I picked his brain clean about all the hell that's been going on. I found out what page he's on and what the future plans are.... which by the way, DH and the others were afraid that he might leave and leave them here, OR he might be unhappy with them and be looking to replace them (paranoid men!) -- but I find out this ISN"T the case at all. I get all the answers these guys have been wanting/needing.... and this boss (who remember is a friend of mine, we've been like family for 5 years) laid out his 5 year plan with me.
DH has been coming home, stressed, worried, freaked out, etc. I've been trying to advise him (when he asks) --- but was never 100% sure I was right in what I was telling him..... now I know I'm 100% right... AND YES - DH knew I was going with the boss BEFORE we left. (there are no trust issues here). Plus it all stresses me out, and has kept me from developing social relationships in our new town for fear that we might not be here very long.
Anyhow, we spent a long time together, got a lot of things hammered out and he hugged my neck and told me Thank You (because I also got him back on track with some things).
I talked to my BFF afterwards and was telling her about it all - and she freakin flipped out! Couldn't believe that I would have the balls to go to lunch with DH's boss, and worse have the balls to pick his brain about work..... cuz she says it's none of my business.....
I say it's all my business.... I have known the boss for a long time, we have a good relationship (more like brother/sister or cousins, ya know). I had a personal invitation from him to come to him if it got to a place where I "needed" the answers from him. And I had DH's blessing beforehand. So.... if I can help DH, help me and help our situation (stress, worry, etc) by doing what I've been told I was welcome to do - then shouldn't I enjoy the right to take advantage of the opportunity when I get it?
Answer by momof2inCT2007 at 9:54 PM on Feb. 6, 2011
What happens in your life and your hubs is totally your business! I think that you did the right thing. It's better to just come out and ask then to sit around and worry.
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