I mean I have always considered myself a great mom...I love being a mom and I look at it as what else would I be doing with my life other than being a mom ...
I have 2 kids a 4 year old daughter and a 2 year old son, I wanted more but I was unable to ( infertility) ... So when the chance came and we were asked to take in my husbands 10 year old niece we did. My husbands brother and her mom were bad druggies , so she went back and forth between them and my mother in law... they were FINALLY proven unfit and lost custody, so we were able to get custody of her ( and going to try and actually adopt her).
She is very sweet and very smart... when she first came to live with us a couple months ago and when we were enrolling her into school ( we live in a different school district than where she was living) she was upset because the kids at her old school made fun of her because of the way she looks .... I explained to her how she is beautiful and needs to be strong but she told me she hates her hair and her teeth.
She has very bad teeth - she sucked on a binkie until she went to school ( and I seen her sucking on it deveral times at my MILs when she was 6 and 7 ) ... so of course now she has very big buck teeth ... So of course we took her to the dentist and we got her braces ( her dentist said she definatly needs them) ... she has even said that she loves them ( she has pink and purple bands) .
Her mother put peroxide on her hair before and it completely damaged it, it turned it a weird color that never went away and it just made peices of her hair look very frizzy ( kind of like it was crimped and then seriously dried out) ... so before she started school I took her to a salon ( my aunt works there) and got her hair cut and we dyed it back to the original color and we also put a couple of low-lights in it ( because we couldnt get the damaged pieces to match up) ... she was so happy and loved it and was excited to go to school.
She is doing great in school, before she was in trouble and got horrible grades ... since she started here she hasnt got lower than a B- and she has alot of friends. She has her own cute room than we painted and decorated together, we have family time and family dinners together, I help her with her homework and I think we are giving her a very positive family life that she would never of had if she didnt come to live with us .
So the reason for this posting is , since we have to stay in contact with her aunt ( her mothers sister) , she is on my facebook ( and we let her visit once a month) ... she is now calling me and making sure everyone knows that I am a horrible mother because " As soon as we got her we tried to turn her into a barbie doll " and that she is too young to be treated how we are treating her , and just alot of other mean things about how I am unfit to care for her ( because we got her braces and dyed her hair) .
I mean I know it shouldnt bother me since this is coming from a person who tried to get custody of her but was denied because of her living condition ( she basically lives in filth) ... and I know we are giving her a great life... but it still does...So my question is... is getting a 10 year old braces ( even though we went to 2 dentists and they both strongly reccommended them) and dyed her hair ( when her hair was already very damaged) does that make me a bad mother ?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:12 AM on Feb. 7, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Babe you already know the answer to this question. I commend you for doing what you have done. If something happened to me I would pray that my children were adopted by someone like you. Your doing great! Give yourself a pat and don't let what trash comes out of that womens mouth go into your garbage pail.
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