i stay with my husband because i'm afraid my son will hate me someday if i leave. DH has repeatedly cheated and lies a lot. we have a 15 month old. i know we would be better off without his father but i can't help but wonder if it's true that men like him can grow up, it happens later in life, around 30. (dh is 23) so maybe i have to give him more chances? i feel if i re-married in the future, it would hurt my son to see me happy with someone else. i feel like no matter how great the possible future man would be, he would never be enough for my son to really accept.
i'm also afraid of what he'll think of me if i do stay, and someday he finds out all the BS his father put me through. he could lose all respect for me because of that. i guess it depends on the type of person my son turns out to be.
i'm not in love with his father but i was once, maybe we could get that back? i think my son and i are pretty amazing and DH does not appreciate how truly lucky is he, WE are... to have this family. i come from a "broken home" and my stepdad could never add up to my vision of a father. though my real father was abusive, i still loved the idea of my real parents being happily together forever. i did hate my mom for a long time when i was young. i wanted to believe that i came from two being truly meant to be. it totally screwed up my view of love and life, hence the horrible choice in spouse =)
any of your kids have a stepdad? how has that affected their lives and view of you?
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