I own a miscarriage support group and have for several years. One of the most common complaints is that friends and family have not offered enough support during a miscarriage or throughout any subsequent losses.
My question to those who have suffered from one or more miscarriages, is what would have helped you move past your grief? What could your friends and family have done for you to make life a little better during one of the most difficult times in your life? Were there things that people said that made things worse for you? Did someone do something amazing for you that helped you?
Thank you so much for your replies.
Answer by zperez0809 at 1:00 PM on Feb. 7, 2011
Answer by MommaClark3 at 12:52 PM on Feb. 7, 2011
My biggest thing that bothered me was that I actually went into labor and i HAD a baby boy, I heard his heartbeat right before he was born stillborn. although he was only 2.5 oz. he was my baby baby boy and i had the contractions and pain and complications that all women do when having a baby. After I lost my baby people acted like it was an everyday occurrence that everyone goes through it and that a miscarriage is something that happens and then never talked about again. I was pissed! my baby was born into this world I went to his funeral although it was with other miscarried babies. I held my baby and to me when people ask how many kids I have have i will always include him. He is up in heaven waiting for his family. and now that have a 3 yr old little boy he knows that he has an older brother who in heaven waiting for us.
Answer by brooklyndm at 4:01 PM on Feb. 7, 2011
Answer by misses_nick at 12:52 PM on Feb. 7, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 1:53 PM on Feb. 7, 2011
Answer by miraclewaits at 3:27 PM on Feb. 7, 2011
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Answer by angelm523 at 4:29 PM on Feb. 7, 2011
Answer by Linda1012 at 6:47 PM on Feb. 7, 2011