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Hi, Any tips on raising a confident child?

my son is 2.10years and he's very shy doesn't shake hand or replies to the questions asked by any stranger or guests at home.

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Asked by Asifa at 4:26 AM on Feb. 8, 2011 in General Parenting

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  • Expose him to ppl on a regular basis and encourage him to be friendly, but don't force it. He's just 2, he'll get less shy as time goes on trust me.

    Answer by SweetLoveofMine at 4:29 AM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • Also, tell him you love him all the time, and tell him you love him "no matter what". We sing little kids songs to my son and substitute the names in the songs for his name. And sometimes we change the words to something like "mommy loves you"..

    Example (to Are you sleeping, brother john)
    Are you sleeping,
    Are you sleeping,
    (Insert name)
    (insert name)
    Mommy and Daddy love you,
    Forever and For always
    Ding Dong Ding

    Answer by ladymomtraveler at 5:21 AM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • if he's only 2 it just might be a phase both my niece and nephew were painfully shy children till about 4 then suddenly they opened up. now they can walk up to almost anyone and strike a conversation. maybe try play dates tho with other mommies and toddlers. maybe he'll open up to more adults through children

    Answer by Micky423 at 5:50 AM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • You need to help him through these awkward moments when adults are expecting too much from a child his age. It all comes in time.

    Answer by elizabr at 6:34 AM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • His behaviors are normal at his age... but model for him when you meet someone old or new... reach out and shake hands... this will give him an open feeling to follow your lead... as he grows remind him that "Life is not fair" let him make mistakes at home so he can learn how to deal with it appropriately he can learn cause and effect ... this should help him be confident in himself.... our last 5 kiddos are very behavioral and this mind set has helped them overcome many of their social challenges... good luck... :-)

    Answer by BlessingsBegin at 9:24 AM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • Honey, you give him time. He's only 2 years old and this is very typical behavior for a 2 year old.

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 10:08 AM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • I agree, part of this is simply that he's 2. Sounds like my son when he was that age. He's 8 now and still shy, but not immobilized by it. Building confidence requires you to give your son opportunities to succeed. It's praising him for little things without going overboard and making EVERY little thing a big celebration. It's modeling behavior - don't make a big deal about things you're feeling a lack of confidence over. Project confidence yourself. Let him fail sometimes -children build great confidence when they learn how to falter and then start over. Knowing you can pick yourself up and get back on track is a BIG confidence builder! Don't push him into situations he's not ready for though - if he's not comfortable with adults talking to him, field the questions for him and you ask his input. "Oh, he likes ice cream. Don't you DS. What's your favorite flavor? Is it chocolate?" Little by little he'll take over on his own.

    Answer by ldmrmom at 1:44 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • Thanks all for your valueable comments/advices:)

    Comment by Asifa (original poster) at 2:00 AM on Feb. 9, 2011

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