She has 4 kids (25, 22, 19 and 17) her husband who she has been married to for 10 years now has 2 (17 and 12) Her 17 year old, Jarred lives with her and the other did until they moved out on their own, his 2 live with their mother. They both have court orders with the children for visitation but they always just let them be with them when they want and be with the other parent when they want (both exs live within 20 minuets and all the children except the 12 year old drive and have their own cars, so this is never a problem). His 17 year old, heather amost never comes over unless she is being given a gift like her birthday or Christmas or if they are taking the kids clothes shopping. Well when her now 19 year old son, Robby, graduated from high school he had a 4.1 something GPA and had 2 semesters of college finished and has a 100% scholorship (including money for housing) to one of the BEST colleges in the state. He got a BIG graduation party. My aunt spent about $500 on it and paid about $1000 to go on his senior trip. Her son Jarred is on track to do just as well, if not better then him and she plans on doing the same for him. The problem is her step dd, heather asked when they would be doing her party and asked if she could have the money for her class trip. She will be graduating the same year as Jarred, only 2 weeks later but she has about a 2.0 GPA and isn't planning on going to college. This girl went to private school her whole life (my aunt's kids all went to public) and my aunt says she just doesn't think she should throw her a party and send her on a trip because she doesn't feel there is a need to celebrate the fact that in the past 10 years, her and her husband have spent about $25000 for her to barely graduate high school not go to college. Also, heather's mother is throwing her a BIG party too and is sending her on a spring break trip. Now I have to say, my aunt has ALWAYS been fair with all the children. It doesn't matter which child it is, when they are in her home, they are treated equeally and all 6 have always been welcome to come over anytime they want to. She feels that the expensive party and trip are rewards for a GREAT job and Heather is barely passing. She asked me if I thought it would be wrong if her and her husband tell Heather that they are going to give her a nice graduation gift but she won't be getting the big party or trip and explain why. I told her that would be more then fair, especially since her mom is already throwing her a party and sending her on a trip. She is so upset she will hurt feelings (she is like that, always worry about hurting someone) but her hours got cut back at work and they can't afford 2 big parties and 2 trips and she doesn't think it is fair to cut back on Jarred who has done this amazing job to give Heather a second party and trip, when really, she didn't earn the first. Please give opinions or thoughts.Answer Question
Answer by aheuszel at 10:16 AM on Feb. 8, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 10:20 AM on Feb. 8, 2011
Answer by matthewscandi at 10:20 AM on Feb. 8, 2011
If so she needs to have a party and a trip.
She is getting a party AND a trip provided by her mother. She think she deserves two of each and she doesn't especially after they have paid for private school for the step children but, the Aunt's children went to public school. The girl has been handed enough.
Answer by matthewscandi at 10:22 AM on Feb. 8, 2011
Answer by ohwrite at 10:23 AM on Feb. 8, 2011
Answer by dustbunny at 10:31 AM on Feb. 8, 2011
Answer by MommaClark3 at 10:32 AM on Feb. 8, 2011