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Night time troubles

My son sometimes... no most of the time has fits about going to bed.. he's been doing this for a really long while now. probably since late august. we've tried every suggestion out there. He will be 3 in May.

he also cries in his sleep really late at night. i've only heard that a few times.. and my mom heard it twice when he stayed the night with her.. but no i haven't gone in to check on him because it doesn't last long and he never gets up..

I don't know how to help him.. I feel terrible for him because he hates bed time so bad.. we have a great routine though.. dinner, bath, teeth, book(s) , talk, sleep..
he is also excessively scared of quite a few things.. like shaking scared.. we had a problem with (hadow) shadows.. but now we tell the shadow hi and goodnight while making it wave and that usually makes him alright..

i've visited with his pediatrician and they offered no help.. but he now has a new one that we have not visited yet..
any similiar stories? any help?

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Asked by Lydiiiiaaa at 12:07 PM on Feb. 8, 2011 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Your baby is just about the age for the imagination and coherent dreaming to kick in. A lot of kids that age start talking about "dark" "monsters" "ghosts", etc. Part of the resistance to bedtime could be the fear.
    Make sure that you have nightlights up, doors open, easy access to you in the middle of the night, and that you repeat quite often, "We are safe in our house. Mommy and Daddy are safe and we make sure our house is safe." Regarding the shadows, take out a flashlight sometime and show him how to make his own shadow. Talk about the shadow just being light . . . .nothing to be scared of.
    The most important thing is not to punish the fear . . .you will cause bigger problems.
    Be there, support and ride it out. By the time your baby is four, he will be secure again and will be sleeping on his own through the night.

    Answer by ImaginationMama at 3:45 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • this really put me at ease. thank you so much!

    Comment by Lydiiiiaaa (original poster) at 5:33 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

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