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My babys daddy is living with me and my dad and he wont get a job, make friends, and he is failing school...what can i do??

we also dont have anything to get ready for baby and i am due in may

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Asked by Anonymous at 3:11 PM on Feb. 8, 2011 in Pregnancy

Answers (12)
  • Is he a teenager? Kick him out.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:13 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • Tell him he has 2 weeks to get a job or get out. If he is like this now, just think how it will be when the baby comes.

    Answer by Jademom07 at 3:13 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • we are both teens i am 16 and he is 17 and he is not being any help at all.. he also just bought spearkers for his truck

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 3:14 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • Tell him has 2 weeks to get a job and he needs to bring up his grades or he will never get anywhere in life. I would recommend that you make sure that you follow through or he will take advantage of you for as long as you let hm. If he is like this now what ill he be like when the baby is here?

    Answer by coala at 3:18 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • yeah. and his parents are rich so if i leave him im affraid they will fight me for baby. do you think that i can loose my baby??

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 3:20 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • A lawyer will have to prove you are unfit before they can just take your baby.

    Answer by bhoward87 at 3:27 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • You can't make someone responsible. The only thing you can do at this point is insulate yourself and the baby from his irresponsible behavior. I agree with everyone else - set a deadline and ask him to leave. Stick to it. Next time pay attention to the guy's character before you have sex.


    Answer by Dr.Donna at 3:32 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • Talk with your parents and they can help tell him to pay up or leave. Moms have more rights than we know!! He would have to prove that your were not able to care for the child. Which would be hard! You have a place to live, you have a place for baby to sleep. It would be very hard for him to get the baby, even if his parents do have money. (((hugs))) GL.

    Answer by summerbear at 4:19 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • Kick him out.

    Answer by Bethsunshine at 4:23 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • If his parents are rich and he refuses to step up, tell him he better go talk to daddy for some money or get out of the house. If he is a bum and you are supporting him now, what do you think it will be like for the baby? You will be stuck caring for it all alone and all the time. As far as his parents fighting for baby, Mom and Dad, unless unfit ALWAYS keep the baby. If they are not together, one of them will get it way before grandparents will unless they are hard core on drugs or homeless. As far as the baby daddy getting him before you. Not likely for a newborn to be placed with father. Breastfeed and that will ensure your baby gets the healthiest nutrients and that the baby can't be too far away from you

    Answer by huntin_mama at 4:24 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

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