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Is four months too early to let my son cry it out in his crib at nap time?

how long do i let him cry?

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Asked by jnhill at 3:47 PM on Feb. 8, 2011 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • IMO Yes its way too early!

    Answer by Charis76 at 3:48 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • Yes,it is.

    Answer by dancer at 3:48 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • yes too early..

    Answer by maxsmom11807 at 3:49 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • awww, yes..In my opinion 4 months is too early to cry it out. They have no idea at this stage how to really comfort themselves into falling to sleep or back to sleep once they start crying.Maybe a few minutes of fussiness is okay..and then they fall back to sleep but any longer than that..I can't do it,lol. They need your warmth and cuddling love mama :)

    Answer by kimberlyinberea at 3:51 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • Agreed, at four months old your baby is too young to be left alone and crying. I didn't start a modified cry it out till my kids were around 8 months or so and better able to sleep through a night.

    Answer by Rosehawk at 3:52 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • to early! he needs u so be there for him! rock him, put him in the swing CIO is not the answer at 4 months sorry!

    Answer by Caroline2010 at 3:56 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • Thank you!

    Comment by jnhill (original poster) at 3:56 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • IMO yes its too young, you can't spoil a child that young...

    Answer by shayla0224 at 4:05 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • Ferber, the "cry it out" guru, never meant for people to actually leave the room and not come back in. He meant for you to come in a soothe . . . .not to let a baby get too upset.

    4 months. yes. too young.

    I am not a fan of "cry it out", anyhow. I am a mental heath professional, so I have reasons to not be a fan. If you need to "train" you need to do a gentle and modified approach.

    Answer by ImaginationMama at 4:20 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

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