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Would you be ok with your dads girlfriend calling herself nana to your baby?

My dad told me today that it hurts her feeling how i never call her nana or grandma. well he doesnt see it the way my husband and i do. Our son already has his grandmas. do you think we are wrong in the way we feel?

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Asked by DinaBeena at 9:18 PM on Feb. 8, 2011 in Relationships

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  • I don't see an issue with your children calling her "nana" - we have several friends my kids refer to as aunt and uncle, no difference, IMO. A child can't have too many grandparents.

    Answer by Scuba at 9:20 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • If she was a permanent fixture in his life I think I'd be okay with it. As long as she's not going to up and leave I don't think it can hurt the children to have one more child who loves them! My children have had 3, a nana, nanny and grandma. One is my father in laws second wife.

    Answer by leah_rai at 9:20 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • * one more person
    brain's fuzzy!

    Answer by leah_rai at 9:20 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • Why not??? So what if he already has grandmas, why cant he have a nana too?

    Answer by leksismommy at 9:21 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • I don't see why it would hurt her feelings How long has he being dating her? I mean don't see your son getting really attached to her and calling her nana and they just break up.

    Answer by mommy_jules at 9:23 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • Nope. My kids call my MIL's husband Mr. Bill. They have been married for 6 months and I am not allowing my children to call someone "Grandpa" that may not be around long. They call my FIL's wife "Grandma" but, they have been together for 12 years and she isn't going anywhere. Plus my MIL's husband weirds me out a little bit.

    Answer by matthewscandi at 9:23 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • If she is married to your Dad..let her be Nan. If she is just a way. gf's and bf's have a way of disappearing from childrens lives after they've attatched emotions to them. Little kids don't understand why someone left them. If they were married there is a better expectation she'll be around a while.

    Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 9:23 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • who cares?

    Answer by prettymango at 9:26 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • That is a hard situation . . .one of the pleasantries of split families! Remember that it is the person, not the titile, that matters to a child.

    Answer by ImaginationMama at 9:29 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

  • I would not like it -- unless they were married -- and even then, I would not want ANYONE to encourage it, I would let my child call them whatever they WANT to!

    Answer by BaileysMom476 at 9:30 PM on Feb. 8, 2011

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