I can't stand my teenager. He is 16 and treats me and his sister like shit. He talks to me like I'm trash and at times I'm actually scared. I don't know what to do, I really really want to run away, (yeah, I sound like a kid myself) but I can't leave my daughter with him. She is now a cutter because of him (and all the fighting me and him do). He has major anger issues, and has absolutely no respect for me. His comebacks also consist of comparing my old high school to his (his is like number 2 in the state, and my old school isn't. so, he says things "oh, what school did you go to? oh yeah, where you either end up in jail or in a cube." Which, of course, i work in a cube. His aunt, who also went to this school, is now a VP. BUT THAT DOESN'T MATTER!) I'm already messed up - I'm bi-polar, and I have my own issues, but when he gets in these arrogant asshole moods, my chest tightens up, my skin crawls and I don't know what to do. He's broken the door off the hinge, he shattered a hanger against the wall where its broken the drywall, he threw his game controller and broke it, after that he picked up his chair in his room and threw it, which bent the curtain rod. yes, I know, its all my fault. It always is, but I don't know what to do. I'm looking for a counselor for my daughter, and him, but I don't know why - it'll be a waste of money, he won't talk. In fact, when we used to go to therapy, he was sometimes worse afterwards, kind of like punishing me for making him go there. I can't send him to his dad's because he wouldn't take him.
I really don't know what to do - I really want to disappear.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:33 PM on Feb. 8, 2011 in Teens (13-17)
Answer by fiatpax at 9:53 PM on Feb. 8, 2011
Answer by jeanclaudia at 10:04 PM on Feb. 8, 2011
Answer by rkoloms at 10:30 PM on Feb. 8, 2011
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