Can you get a childs seat for the toliet? Some sing and have designs in it. It just sits on top of the toliet and normally has handles, that should help your childs fear. plus with the lid down (and maybe clean it real good before) have your child go up to the toliet and say ...Potty, hi my name is (childs name) i am afraid to use you because im afraid ill fall in, but i will try. Then open up the lid and show him its not very far down, all it is is a little water and that if he falls he can yell at the potty for being bad. That gets your child to face his fear, acknowledge it, visually see that it isnt far down and he wont fall forever and feel's in control and has power over the potty to give a "punishment" to the potty is something like that happens. It also acknoweldges that it might happen sometime so that if it does happen he wont be tramatized and say you told me i wasnt going to fall in and then lose trust. Good luck!
at 12:08 AM on Feb. 9, 2011