I have a 2 1/2 yr old and a 16m old. I have basically been a single mom for a year now. Their dad has been gone for 3months now, as he was the majority of the year. We have had the same routine since baby #2 was born. I still gave both a bottle of 3-4oz at nap and bed....for my own sanity. I don't care to hear about bottle mouth. To me it is the same as a pacifier. Well, I have been living at my parents now for 3 weeks. My mum is helping while my dad is at my grandfather's caring for him. Anyways, I thought the support would have helped. But the kids are still awake. My oldest is up 3-8x a night. The baby 2-3x. I am so freaking exhausted. I thought at this point they would both sleep better. It seems to just get worse. They had to be put in the same room, which went well for 3 nights and now for 4 nights it's been hell. One wakes and the other wakes. When I get into an apt it will be a 2br and they have to learn to be in the room together. But I can't get them to sleep. Getting out of bed isn't an issue for the older, it's just getting to sleep and getting back to sleep. I even pulled my oldest into bed with me for a period of time when he would wake in the middle of the night, but he still doesn't stay asleep or go back to sleep easy.
I'm to the point to let them CIO. I have tried the Ferber method and going back in to check on either of them only makes matters worse. One night in the middle of the night he cried for an hour. I finally gave in and rocked him with a bottle. Someone suggested giving the 2 yr old melatonin, but there is no info on age guidelines for that. The pediatrician says let them CIO. All fine and dandy if they were in seperate rooms.
I am just at my end. I haven't slept a solid 4 hours in over 2 years now. There dad, when he was around, said let them CIO. I thought it was horrible to let them cry for a half hour or more. I probably should have just done that from the start.
I am ready to toss the bottles and make a major change, cause it's hell all night as it is. I just told my mum they are so used to being attended to, because it was easier for me to take care of one before waking the other when I was by myself with them, they are used to it. I tried 3x taking the bottle from my oldest and he was banging his head against the wall, thrashing around...and I thought, good God, take the bottle if you need that sucking to calm down. Better than harming yourself. And that was with me laying in bed with him hoping I could sooth him.
I never thought it would be this hard. Never. I thought by a year old they should sleep well, maybe waking once a night. But this is just crap....what am I to do??
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