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Has anyone been through this before?

the guy im dating was cheated on by his wife for most of their relationship, well he keeps thinking that i am cheating on him or that i want someone else (after me repeatedly telling him i dont). he said its because i keep getting a bactiral infection (after i got my essure tubal occluion i get them for no reason) and he says its cuz im sleeping with someone else no matter how many times i tell him that im not..and im not sleeping with anyone else i love him WAY to much to do something like that to has anyone else had an experince like this one? or even close to it? what happened with the relationship? how did you handle it?

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:27 AM on Feb. 9, 2011 in Relationships

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  • i havent had this happen, but i really think you should tell him that just because his ex wife did it to him, that you are not his ex wife at all, woman are not all the same people and for now on, when he accuses you of cheating then you will just nod your head because you told him once you arent doing it and dont plan on cheating and he should accept that and not have to put in a full explaination on it.

    You really shouldnt have to explain yourself and your actions but he really needs to see that you are not her.

    Answer by americansugar80 at 8:35 AM on Feb. 9, 2011

  • Well it seems to me that your SO has a bit of self esteem issues after what his ex wife did to him... When someone gets cheated on they go into a paranoid and self defense mode where they think that the next person there with will do it to them as well, sit him down and talk to him about the matter and keep reassuring him that nothing is happening and that you care to much for him to ever do anything like that... Hope things work out girly

    Answer by Marine_Wifey89 at 8:38 AM on Feb. 9, 2011

  • He needs to get counseling ir you need to leave him b/c you cnat have a relationship with someone who is constantly accusing you of cheating it causes strife in the relationship and what is a relatiobship without trust?

    Answer by jazmya_mom at 10:54 AM on Feb. 9, 2011

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