i will admit that i married a momma's boy. however that quality was not as evident then as it became shortly after we got married. ive known my husband since highschool but its not like we discussed who pays his bills and stuff beforehand. i just made the mistake of assuming that he was responsible enough to do it himself.
anyway it started in the first few months of marriage. shortly after i was added to his checking account, i realized his mom was still on it to, and not only was she on it, she was checking it online. she actually had the nerve to interrogate me about why i was spending money here & there & insisted that SHE put US on a budget. well that was when i put my foot down and told my husband (24 years old at the time) to remove her. i made it clear that i appreciated her trying to help us out but she could do it from a distance and only when asked. believe it or not, my (what seemed to be reasonable) request ended in a big fight, me versus MIL & husband. it did eventually get done though. and SIL told me that MIL was actually pissed about it.
anyway, this was around tax time last year. after this huge blow-out, i decided it best not to argue that she would ALSO be filing our taxes for us. what we did with our refund, also ended up being her business & another fight. shortly after that our 1 year anniversary rolled around, and now were coming up on our second, and it is also tax time again.
we have been through a lot of ups and downs, and my relationship with MIL was deteriorated. so i figured this year i would also hold my tongue concerning her filing our taxes for us, yet again.
however, im starting to get really annoyed with having to ask DH constantly if she went and filed yet. i know we both have to sign it before she can turn it in. shes pretty lazy and will get to it when shes good and damn ready. its really embarassing when my friends ask if we filed ours yet and i have to say that no, my MIL hasnt done it yet. DH and I got in a little tift this morning when i said next year, we are surely doing our taxes OURSELVES. we are turning 25 (me) and 26(him) this year, and have 3 children, and are fully capable of doing it ourselves. i dont care whether either of them like it or not, this is the way married couples handle their finances. he agreed but he wasnt happy about it.
am i being unreasonable here? i have been filing my own taxes since i got my first job at 15! my parents always helped me but they never did it FOR me nor did i ever ask them to. i was paying my own bills and stuff before i even graduated high school (cell phone bill, car insurance, etc) and now i just feel so financially weak having MIL do our taxes for us. they both still want to work out a budget for us, and i keep telling DH that WE as a married couple can sit down and figure one, but i refuse to let her in on it. its OUR business alone, isnt it?
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