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Am i crazy for naming my miscarage baby

i lost a baby in aug i was 8 weeks pg when its heart stopped. from the day i got pg i had a feeling it was a boy and the name riley was something that just kept popping in my mind when i had my d&c a week after we found out he was gone i named him riley i refer to him as riley when asked questions about him. it helps me i just wanted to see if i am crazy or if more people do this to.

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Asked by shannonmcgeehen at 11:20 AM on Feb. 9, 2011 in General Parenting

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  • Nope, nothing wrong with it. You were a mommy to him so there is nothing wrong with naming him.

    Answer by Jademom07 at 11:22 AM on Feb. 9, 2011

  • no you aresn't I named mine Robin.

    Answer by dragonqueen at 11:24 AM on Feb. 9, 2011

  • not crazy

    Answer by ElenaC419 at 11:25 AM on Feb. 9, 2011

  • no your not crazy. you were pregant with a baby. and were already bonding with it. it may help with your grieving or you coping with what happened. i know that with babies that are still born often they will wrap them in a blanket and let the parents hold it and say their goodbyes. i wish you all the best and hope things are getting easier. i see no problem with what you are doing. i would have named it mayself as well.

    Answer by laura970 at 11:25 AM on Feb. 9, 2011

  • NO sweetie it's not crazy. I wish I had named mine. God I'm gonna start crying now.

    Answer by Imogine at 11:27 AM on Feb. 9, 2011

  • I think we all did. I just didn't say it in public. lol

    Answer by Kimimale at 11:30 AM on Feb. 9, 2011

  • Really Kimi? I feel terrible. I didn't name my baby anything. I just call him my angel. =( Okay here come the tears. Grrr! Why am I so emotional today? My period was last week!

    Answer by Imogine at 11:32 AM on Feb. 9, 2011

  • No,it is not crazy!!! It is sweet.

    Answer by dancer at 11:41 AM on Feb. 9, 2011

  • I did not. I just want Imogine to know that she is not alone. I lost my baby when I was about 24 weeks a long but the baby had stopped developing around 16 weeks. It was my way of dealing with things.

    Was it wrong. Absolutely not. You want to give your baby a name and you shouldn't think twice about it.

    Answer by Melbornj at 11:48 AM on Feb. 9, 2011

  • not at all. i named mine. and a lot of women who regret having abortions end up naming their lost child

    Answer by momofone725 at 11:51 AM on Feb. 9, 2011

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