Imagine you have a child with a disability. You have no family close by to help with the care--it's just you and your husband. Babysitters are hard to find--both because of the cost, and concern that your average teenager might not be equipped to handle caring for a child with disabilities, and your child might not be able to communicate what he or she needs to the babysitter, or let you know if something went wrong.
Now imagine a group came up with a wonderful idea of offering parents one night a month where they could drop off their child with disabilities, and any siblings, up to age thirteen, for one-on-one attention on a Friday night for up to four hours. This group has a nurse on hand, an outdoor playground (fenced), different rooms set up with various activities like crafts, sensory activities, movies, music and movement, and a quiet room if a child becomes over-stimulated. They are very caring adults who offer this free of charge, simply because they know how difficult it can be for parents of children with disabilities to find proper childcare, and rarely have time when they're not "on duty".
Now. . . imagine that this group is set up in a place of worship for a religion that is very different from your own beliefs. They do not say that it is only open to families of their place of worship--in fact, they open it to anyone who has a child with a disability. You are assured that it isn't for the purpose of indoctrinating children into their faith, it truly is intended to offer parents an evening of respite. You learn, though, that many of these activities involve singing worship songs, coloring pictures of their religious symbols, and being told stories about their religious figures, maybe even from their religious text.
You are concerned about the confusion this might cause your child/ren. What would you do? Would you politely say, "Thank you so much for offering this much-needed service to our community, but we do not subscribe to your faith, and we're concerned that some of the activities might confuse our child, so please involve him/her in non-religious, more secular activities."?
Would you shrug your shoulders and convince yourself that the evening of respite is necessary, and four hours of your child being exposed to these stories and songs will probably not cause too great of confusion?
Would you not send your child because it seems hypocritical to take advantage of this group when you don't believe in their religion, and you really don't want to risk causing confusion for your child? (Remember, your child has a disability, and may have cognitive or communication difficulties, so trying to explain your religious differences might be very difficult)
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