i just caught my 4 year old in a lie!
it was a small one, but still a lie. i told her if she ate all her dinner, she could have strawberries for dessert. she finished her tots & her broccoli, and half of her sloppy joe. the buns are small so this wasnt like a huge meal for her. she eats more than that for lunch at school.
anyway i went to the bathroom when i was finished, and she followed me not 2 seconds later and said she finished it. but then she told me not to look in the trash! sure enough, she threw it away and tried to pull a fast one on me.
i told her now shes not getting any strawberries both because she didnt finish her dinner and because she lied. she then threw a fit and said "i told you not to look in the trash!" i was blown away! i tried explaining to her that if she told me she was full i probably wouldve given her the strawberries, but since she lied now shes definitely not getting any.
she had a screaming fit and went to her room. i cant even talk to her over the screaming so i will let her simmer in there til shes done.
but she makes up little lies like this all the time, and i always tell her that she is in more trouble for lying now and if she had told me the truth it wouldnt have been so bad. her bio-dad was a chronic liar and always made up stories that never happened, and im not saying this is the case with her but im wondering if thats part of it?
how can i get her to feel comfortable enough to tell me the truth? is this a normal 4 year old thing?
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