LONG story short, I don't want my brother to marry his fiance b/c not only do I think he can do better, but I truly believe he's unhappy- and that he's marrying her since she kind of pressured him. They've been together for years and I've ALWAYS said I like her, but don't want them to get married. She's disrespectful to him, high maintenance, dramatic, and simply put- a total brat. She has no balancing qualities (relationship-wise).
A lot of my family members agree with me, that they aren't the best match- but they're too scared to say anything. I live in CA, they live in MA- so all our communication is by phone, email, skype. My older brother and I are best friends- I've already expressed concern about her in the past. Honestly he proposed to her out of nowhere (a year ago).
I emailed him, telling him how I feel, then brought it up to him today and he's getting the picture of where I stand. We haven't discussed it at length (he had a rough day at work so didn't want to), but we are talking about it tomorrow. Here's my problem- I'm a bridesmaid and my daughter is their flower girl (he's her Godfather). But I'm having a real hard time with the idea of participating in a wedding I don't believe should happen. Also, my bf and I will be spending at least $2,000 (and we are broke!!) between traveling and being a part of the wedding this July- again, a wedding I don't believe should happen. If he was going to be happy, the money wouldn't matter- but I know him, he's not going to be happy. We want him to move out here and start over.
Ugh, sorry for the saga. What do I do about being in the wedding? Is it very wrong of me to say I don't want to be IN it? Will I get disinvited?? Thanks and please, no bashing...
btw- her and I get along fine, we have great times when we are together- but like I said, she's just not the one for him and we all can see that (btw in case it matters, they are 25/26 and have been together on/off for 5yrs)
Answer by MamaAlice54 at 9:36 PM on Feb. 9, 2011
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