I just asked this differently, but it was real long.
For a million reasons, I don't want my brother and his fiance to get married. My brother and I are best friends, and we have a big, tight family. I'm a bridesmaid and my daughter is the flower girl. We'd be flying across the country w/ my SO (and spending more money than we have) to go to this wedding- but all of my immediate family and extended family (from South America) will be there.
Since I do not want him to marry her, is it wrong for me to step down from being a bridesmaid, but still go to the wedding? I'm afraid of not going at all- it would break his heart, but I don't feel fully comfortable being in the wedding anymore. The thing is if that happens(if I decide not to be in the wedding), then his fiance will know my true feelings- only causing more drama.
What would you do??
Answer by luvmygrlz at 10:04 PM on Feb. 9, 2011
Answer by bobbys4eva at 10:05 PM on Feb. 9, 2011
If I was seriously against them getting married no I wouldn't go. It would have to be something more than just "I don't like her". I think if you don't want to go then don't. Use the "we don't the money to come" scenerio. Then that avoids the drama of her knowing that you don't like her.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 10:06 PM on Feb. 9, 2011
"We don't HAVE the money", sorry.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 10:07 PM on Feb. 9, 2011
Answer by SleepingBeautee at 10:08 PM on Feb. 9, 2011
Answer by JLS2388 at 10:11 PM on Feb. 9, 2011
It's his life and his choice. If you are his best friend too, you should be there to support him on his wedding day. He is your brother. It would be unfair to him for you to take yourself and his niece out of his wedding party. The day is not about YOU, it is about him and what his wife to be, despite how you feel about her.
Answer by KairisMama at 10:13 PM on Feb. 9, 2011
Answer by SleepingBeautee at 10:13 PM on Feb. 9, 2011