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Would you have a problem with this?????

I have 3 girls 14, 12 and almost 10 with my ex who takes them one weekend a month. His new wife has 2 boys ages 17 and 15 and I just found out from my dd that while they are staying with the dad, the dad and SM leave them alone with the boys most nights so they can go out. I contronted their dad about this and he said, don't you trust our girls, what do you think will happen? Of course I trust the girls but I don't think they should be left with teenage boys they are not related to (he married the mom about a year ago, so it's not like they have grown up together). Yes, I trust my girls but I also wouldn't leave them alone with a boy they know from school, I sure as hell am not wanting them left alone with boys who are much older. Am I really the only one who would be upset about this?


Asked by Anonymous at 3:53 PM on Feb. 10, 2011 in Parenting Debate

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Answers (23)
  • that would bother me big time.. who knows what could happen. teen boys are very horny and i remember when i was a teen i too was also on fire with all those raging hormones. teen boy + teen girl= disaster.

    Answer by gwen20 at 3:56 PM on Feb. 10, 2011

  • He needs to move his "dates" around his vistitations so they can visit with him. Doesn't make any sense for them to go over there if he isn't there or is going out.

    Answer by Dreamlander at 3:57 PM on Feb. 10, 2011

  • I'd be mad too. Why can't he spend time with his kids? What's the point of having them for the weekend if he's going to leave them.

    Answer by Jenniy at 4:00 PM on Feb. 10, 2011

  • Well I think i would be mostly ticked off that he gets his one weekend with his girls and chooses to leave them at home instead of spending time with them.

    As far as being left with the boys - it would be about level of trust in those boys too, not just your daughters - and I am guessing you don't know the boys too well. I think it would bother me... I don't know what I would do about it.

    For sure there would be a chat every time my girls came home to gauge the situation.

    Answer by angelm523 at 4:20 PM on Feb. 10, 2011

  • Dreamlander, that is another good point. I was more upset about what could happen but it's true, what is the point of them being over there if he isn't there half the time.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 4:00 PM on Feb. 10, 2011

  • I'm sorry, I've raised 2 teenage boys, & I work around teens all the time. There arent too many out there I would consider a suitable babysitter. Your 14 y/o dau may be just as mature as the 2 of them put together! But she may also be at risk of well, risky behavior if left alone w/ those 2. I think your ex & the sm should give up going out on their 1 weekend a month & make it a family nite!

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 4:01 PM on Feb. 10, 2011

  • honestly, that would worry me too.

    Answer by Zakysmommy at 4:01 PM on Feb. 10, 2011

  • I would not like that situation at all.

    Answer by Syphon at 4:03 PM on Feb. 10, 2011

  • You bet, I would be pissed!

    Answer by older at 4:17 PM on Feb. 10, 2011

  • Go to court and amend your visitation such that her boys cannot be alone with your daughters that your husband or if he is working, his wife must be present at all times.

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 4:26 PM on Feb. 10, 2011