How much holding your baby is too much? My daughter is 4 weeks old and my mom yells at me constantly saying that I hold her way too much. But I don't feel that I do. Can that be a bad thing?
I read an article the other day about a couple who always held their daughter or even carried her around in a carry a lot and she was thriving and developing very well but then some of their friends starting telling them they were spoiling her, because they held too much or was at her every beck and call and that they should stop and to let her cry once in awhile. Well instead of doing what they were doing they let someone else influence them and after about 3 months of doing this their daughter wasn't thriving as well as she was before or developing and eating like she should so they brought this up to their doctor and he had asked if anything had changed so they explained what happened and he suggested going back to they way they use to be and after a month or 2 they notice she was getting back to they way she was.
Well I've tried explaining to my mom that I do things differently but it seems like she is always on my butt about everything. I need some advice? Am I holding my daughter too much?
Answer by MomNbabyGirl009 at 2:58 AM on Feb. 11, 2011
Answer by san78 at 6:01 AM on Feb. 11, 2011
Every baby up to 6 months needs to be held and cuddled and snuggled and kissed as much as you can give them and as much as they need. If they don't get enough physical contact and enough love their development can fall behind. You are the mother you know your child by now:) Children usually cries when they don't get enough or they get way too much. If she is a happy baby it means you hold her just right:) You are the mum and you have to stand up for yourself and tell to your mum it is your child and your way of parenting. If she can't behave as an adult and understand she is your baby than try to make her visitations shorter. If you don't clear up this situation with your mum it will cost you years to make it clear. And she will never stop criticising and complaining. Probably she doesn't want to harm your feeling or the child. But it passed 20-30 years since your were a baby. She needs to understand that.
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