I know some wonderful grandmothers who have custody of their grandchildren. However, sometimes it makes me wonder...
A Friend of mine is fighting custody of her grandson. She is in her 60's. She works full time,etc..but I noticed she drinks heavily every night...I also know she takes a lot of medication. For the most part, she is fit for her age, and looks beautiful. I do think he is better off with her since his parents are deadbeats and are alcoholics and on drugs, etc. But then again..sometimes I question her myself, since she is an alcoholic and seems stressed at the drop of a hat. Maybe I'm being too judgemental. But sometimes she seems like an emotional mess. Of course, he is better off with her..but I wonder sometimes if he is...he is only 9. However, sometimes I think he may not be better off with her since the reason his dad is a drinker--is because his grandmother drinks as well...or opinions please? I'm not exagerating about her drinking...she gets drunk on nights..one time after school she had 2 glasses of wine just before picking him up at the bustop to drive a few hours away. She is a good women..but I think she may cause him problems. She does provide well for him tho. But I think sometimes she isn't "mentally stable" for him..not so much her age..but at her age, she seems to already sometimes tell me how "difficult" he can be--she also has him on Adderal for ADD..in which is causing him to have side effects with irritability, and getting angry at her for no reason (like lashing out)--although I do know part of that may be also because he never sees his parents hardly anymore. But one time when I mentioned maybe she should take him off the medication..she then said that she thinks she should "UP" his medication :O That really bothered me. Overall I think she takes care of him..but in a lot of ways, she cannot deal with him either. Another thing is, she always mentions "he doesn't like when I drink..because he dad would too much"...isn't that a red flag? Or am I being too worried?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:11 AM on Feb. 11, 2011 in General Parenting
Sometimes being "better" doesn't make it "best". Is it best to take the child out of a neglectful addiction run home and put him right back into the household of an alcoholic? No, I don't think so.
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