Well as it turns out we didn't need to follow him afterall! A friend of my dh called to say that he caught his son and ours going on a joyride in his car with two girls and there was alcohol and cigarettes involved. We confronted our son and dh asked him to explain himself and his behavior. His reaction was to shove his father and tell us to mind our own business and he then stormed out. This just happened today when he got home from school. All this and only 15! Now I know where he has been and where the money went! We are beside ourselves. Any advice on how we should handle this? Is it hopeless? I feel like a bad parent!Answer Question
Ground his ass!! Don't allow ANY socializing whatsoever!! No cellphone, no car, no internet! Only let him go to school and he must come straight home no exceptions! Do this for at least 2 weeks but I would suggest a month because of the severity of the crime!
Answer by amydh at 4:28 PM on Nov. 17, 2008
Answer by Steph319 at 4:30 PM on Nov. 17, 2008
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Answer by Anonymous at 7:08 PM on Nov. 17, 2008
First of all, none of this is your fault. You are not a bad parent. This is age, he is test to see how far he can push you before you break. I'm sure you feel it lol. As he is trying to become a man he will assert independence by rebelling. Now is the time to show him you will not be tested, you will not be broken. If he thinks it is grown up and acceptable to act this way, he needs to see that it is not and his actions have consequences. His car, phone, computer, tv, games, and money should all be taken away until he has earned the right to use them again. Our society is fast loosing respect for parents, fear is a key element in keeping his respect for you. He should be afraid to act this way again.
Answer by Cris1128 at 9:45 PM on Nov. 17, 2008
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