i know it sounds cruel for me to feel that way, wrong in a way.
but this has been an ongoing problem since she was around 2. i remember putting her in her room for 2 minutes at that age because she would literally scream and grunt when she didnt get her way.
then at 3, those kind of fits got even worse. i wondered if something was wrong with her, and was told its common in 3 year olds. i also figured she was either tired, bored or hungry and exhausted all those options before punishing her for the shrieking, kicking & hitting. ultimately i had to put her in her room and let her calm herself down for a few minutes. its the only thing that worked. when she was done, she was her normal, wonderful, loving & happy self again.
now i havent seen anything like this since she was 3. she turned 4 in october. anyway, it started because she was playing a computer game, and had to use the spacebar to make her character jump. we had just put the ingredients to a cake together and it was in the oven. my younger two were also occupied so i used this opportunity to vacuum. i heard a loud banging, and it was her smashing the spacebar out of anger.
i told her shes going to break the keyboard and she cannot play her game if shes going to get this upset over it. i went over and tried to help her and she shoved my hands away. i promptly shut the game down and removed her out of the chair. she proceeded to use her fists to slam my computer desk. well, i put her in the chair and told her she was in time-out. as i sat her down, she screamed and kicked me. i told her not to kick me, but she kept doing so so finally i smacked the back of her thigh. it got her to stop kicking but obviously the crying and screaming continued. i couldnt tolerate the screaming anymore, so i told her she can go to her room for time-out. as soon as i closed the door, she slammed the door repeatedly with her fists. so much, infact, that the doorknob is now loose. not even 5 minutes later, everything got quiet, she came out, apologized, we discussed what she did wrong, the why's, how's, etc. everything is peachy now.
am i out of my mind or is this normal behavior for a 4 year old? i really dont know what to do when she gets that way. talking to her, redirecting her, timeouts, not even spanking works. all that works is giving her time to let the rage out in her bedroom. she is generally a very happy, smart and loving little girl. but when she gets like this, shes like a force of nature and i really dont know how to handle it.
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