My spouse and I have fought since day one. I can’t seem to trust him, he can’t seem to trust me. We have never cheated on each other or anything like that. He complains about me to me almost all the time, about stupid little things, like misunderstandings. Example, he’ll say apple, and I’m pretty sure I hear orange. He then gets upset with me that I didn’t hear him correctly. We got in a big fight Wednesday because I knew he wasn’t going to do jack for valentines day(He told me he wasn‘t). I was tired of the lack of romance, on any given day. Finally, I figured out why I don’t think he really loves me and why we can’t trust each other.
While we were dating, I felt like I made him propose to me. I don’t know why I did that. I know he loves me, and I certainly love him. Our love is draining. So we decided that from now on we should be “best friends/roommates with benefits” so we could make sure that we could really fall in love this time.
The problem. I don’t think I can really do it, I feel like if I really want to make sure he loves me, we should do an informal separation. I brought up the idea of roommates, but maybe I’m just being selfish. I think he might need to see what’s out there (not that he’ll date for awhile. Or so he says). We have a 9 month old..and I guess I’m not sure what to do anymore. I don’t have a job, and I’m nursing, and can’t seem to find a stay at home job that would pay enough rent for me so I could move out. (not to say that I’m not looking when I’m not busy!) I haven’t told him that I think I should move out. I’m so confused. Help?
Oh, and we have tried marital counseling, it didn't make any difference what so ever.
Asked by Anonymous at 7:19 PM on Feb. 11, 2011 in Relationships
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