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How Can a Single Mom Date Without a Sitter??

I'm a divorced single mom of 2 children ages 10 and 7.How do single moms date without a sitter?I have this problem.No sitter.I can't afford a sitter,I have no friends to help me out and my mom won't help out.So do I just stop dating till my kids get older?

 
alisha34886

Asked by alisha34886 at 7:24 PM on Feb. 11, 2011 in Relationships

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Answers (6)
  • Unless you can find a friend to watch them, find a way to afford a sitter, OR take them with you.....you are out of luck.
    twinsplus2more

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 7:25 PM on Feb. 11, 2011

  • How about trying to date during day hours when the kids are at school. You can always have a lunch date instead of dinner date, or meet at a coffee shop for a little while for a date.  Why not try doing something like that if you really want to date.



    SweetSprinkles

    Answer by SweetSprinkles at 7:47 PM on Feb. 11, 2011

  • My husband and I can not date without a babysitter so we bring him along on our dates. I'm not sure how I feel about having someone you don't know well spending time with your kids but you could try taking them with you to a family friendly event, dinner, sports game whatever.
    mrs.coop

    Answer by mrs.coop at 7:27 PM on Feb. 11, 2011

  • Well I was lucky enough to have supportive parents and friends, so until I knew the person my son would stay with them. But there were quite a few times my son went with me on dates, because I'm not ashamed of him and he's not something I'm trying to hide. But everyone I've ever dated I've known as a friend first, I've never been on a blind date or on a date with someone I met at a party/bar the night before. Just my personal history, so I felt safe bringing along my child because the person I was "dating" i had known as a friend for several years prior. I guess you have to weigh your options. Dragging your children along on a string of dates might not be healthy for them, but you having to give up companionship isn't fair either. Doing family friendly things like sporting events, outings at the park, movies, might be a nice way for you to date and meet new people while still providing a fun and safe atmosphere for your kids.
    ba13ygrl1987

    Answer by ba13ygrl1987 at 7:45 PM on Feb. 11, 2011

  • Bawhahaa.. What's wrong with a mom having a lunch date, or meeting for coffee.  Some people's asses are water tight around here. 

    SweetSprinkles

    Answer by SweetSprinkles at 7:54 PM on Feb. 11, 2011

  • I would. Kids come first. Best wishes!
    etexmom

    Answer by etexmom at 9:53 PM on Feb. 11, 2011