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Why do SOME young girls think that having a baby will keep a man around?

why do SOME young girls think that having a baby will keep a man around?

its crazy what young girls would do for love,i had a conversation with my niece and it really hurt my heart that she has low self asteem for her self
this is how the ending went:

neice:auntie i really love him but he likes_____________ more than me

me:well if he doesnt love you than forget about him focus on school and the right person would come along when the time is right

neice:auntie he told me we were going to get married

me:well he lied

neice:but i don't have to be his wife i just want to be his baby momma so that way he can still be in my life forever

after that conversation i was really speechless thats some crazy stuff smh

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Asked by LABELmeCUTE at 11:29 PM on Feb. 11, 2011 in Relationships

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Answers (10)
  • ell it isn't just young girls... women of all ages can be that desperate too.

    Answer by SleepingBeautee at 11:31 PM on Feb. 11, 2011

  • One, because they are young and dont really know what love is yet, two, its a mild obsession really, because she really likes the guy and thinks she will never "love" anyone the way she "loves" him. Just my personal opinion

    Answer by arkelly2188 at 11:32 PM on Feb. 11, 2011

  • I keep trying to vote up Sleepingbeautee's post but it's not letting me so I'll just agree with her

    Answer by admckenzie at 11:33 PM on Feb. 11, 2011

  • I agree, it can be women of all ages, but i think young girls do it because they dont really know what love is and they think that thay will never "love" anyone they way she "loves" him. Its a mild obsession really.

    Answer by arkelly2188 at 11:34 PM on Feb. 11, 2011

  • I think it's because they are not mature enough to know better & just think randomly although i have seen older women do it too. I happen to always say no baby is going to keep a man by your side at the end if they don't want to be with you they are going o careless if you had./have his child.....

    Answer by mommyof2chasmin at 11:37 PM on Feb. 11, 2011

  • It's her heart saying "If I can't have him as my husband I can at least have him in my life if we have a child together."

    Other times it really DOES keep a man around. My brother is still trying to get back together with his ex who is his daughter's mother because he still wants to do what's right and make a family (she won't have him, though, because he was a serious jackass prior to all this lol).

    Sometimes it just prolongs the end... but it does keep them around longer.

    In the end, having a baby will definately not fix a troubled relationship. But because it works to keep him around one time in ten girls are willing to try it :(

    Answer by Ati_13 at 11:49 PM on Feb. 11, 2011

  • It's called being naïve and it can exist with anyone at any age.

    Answer by -AJ at 12:01 AM on Feb. 12, 2011

  • @-AJ thats very true

    Comment by LABELmeCUTE (original poster) at 12:02 AM on Feb. 12, 2011

  • Low self esteem and they might have moms who patterned this behavior for them.

    Answer by FricknFrack at 12:31 AM on Feb. 12, 2011

  • I know i went through it i was so lucky i did not get pregnant but i felt back then if i did he would stay with me forever instead he beat me and tortured me. I was stupid and i was looking for the love and attention that i was lacking at home:(

    Answer by WildCat73 at 1:55 PM on Feb. 12, 2011

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