Ok, so yesterday my son gave his little "girlfriend" my cell number so she could call him. I thought "oh how cute" that's fine, I'll let him talk to her. Well, first she sent a text saying hi and that her phone would call the number (I assume she dialed wrong). Anyway so I let them talk last night. (if you could call it talking it was them being silly) Fast forward to this morning. She sends him a message to call her. Ok, fine, I let him, but I told him it couldnt be long because we have things to do. Well, the were on the phone, speaker was on, so I could hear it all, but then they started texting too. (which I didn't know you could do with my phone) Well,the little girl sent something very inappropriate. She sent, "I'm having sex". Ok, my son is 8, will be 9 in March..I did not want to have to deal with this type of thing now. Well, my son answers with things like what, with who..blah blah. Oh and when she answered who she said my son..his replies where "faints" and then just jibberish. She said later that she was still having it, but changed the name to someone else. My son answered with "wow" I am MORTIFIED! Seriously freaking actually. My son has already gotten a serious talking to and this phone thing is over. I really thought it was gonna be a cute and innocent thing, but I guess not. So, now I don't know what to do. My son at this point in time, he doesn't even know what sex is..I mean he knows that it is something personal and private, but he doesn't know details. So, I still plan on a more extensive conversation when I get my thoughts collected, but should I punish? UGH, I don't know. He's a great kid and actually never said anything bad, but I really wish he would have just ignored her about it. Then, do I say something to her mother? I think the little girl used her grandparents phone because that is who she said she was with yesterday and it is the same number. I'm also certain she deleted what she sent off of their phone because she told my son to delete it off of mine. So basically I don't know what to do about it.
Oh, and I am submitting this anonymously mainly to protect both of the kids.
Asked by Anonymous at 11:56 AM on Feb. 12, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by suhweetness at 11:59 AM on Feb. 12, 2011
Answer by slw123 at 11:59 AM on Feb. 12, 2011
Answer by shivasgirl at 12:02 PM on Feb. 12, 2011
I would call the number, if the little girl answers ask to speak to her mom/grandma, and explain to them what was written. Did you delete what she wrote? If not, offer to show them what was written. Even if you did delete, at least they know maybe she was writing this stuff and it's time to talk to her. not to get all Freudian or anything but it's my understanding that when kids this age start talking about sex and things it's because they were sexually abused. Not necessarily though. Either way, yes you need to call the parents.
Answer by cassie_kellison at 12:03 PM on Feb. 12, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 12:03 PM on Feb. 12, 2011
Answer by gammie at 12:03 PM on Feb. 12, 2011
Answer by Kellyjude1 at 12:03 PM on Feb. 12, 2011
Answer by Mrs.Prine at 12:10 PM on Feb. 12, 2011