Hi Ladies I'm sure this may have happened to you and need to know how I can deal with it. I have been married 2 years almost and had a great marriage then last Sunday I found a text message from another women to my Husband. He has been talking to her at work and says he is just a friend who he goes out and smokes with (and thats ok BUT). He told her he was Divorced and lived with room mates. I asked her what else he said and he told her he was single and of course he doesn't wear his wedding ring.
When I asked him about it, he went sheet white (surprise) he didn't know what to say so of course he lied and said it was nothing but someone to talk to. I told him why did you tell her you were single and why dont you wear your ring he said I guess I was stupif and then he said sometimes when I have to wear gloves at work i didn't want to loose it....what a crock of SHIT!.
He said friends only I say if I hadn't caught it when I did he would have slept with her and I know it. Before we met he had below average self esteem and work BCG Birth control glasses and wasn't attractive at all but I saw something else in him and gave him a complete make over and confidence.
So I don't know if this lady made him feel good or what but he ran for it. also a little history I am Black and he is white and all he ever dated or attemped to date (attracted to) was Hispanic women and ironic the women he was trying to hook up with is Mexican. I told him that if that is what he wants fine but why did you merry me? he said because he loved me (im doubting it now) but he has always treated me like a queen so I don't know why he did this.
Im trying to deal with it but all my trust is GONE and he still wont confess about wanting to date her....please give me advice and tell me if its worth working it out. I did tell him that if he ever does this again he is OUT and that if we were not Married he would be gone now.
He is kissing my ASS now but im still hurt, mad, non trusting and don't even want to wear my ring or look at his face.
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