What is your opinion on this situation?:
Your uncle molests you throughout your entire childhood, nothing is ever done about it. He eventually marries and now has 3 adult children of his own. You haven't seen this uncle since you moved out at 18, you have never met his family. Your siblings know about the molestation yet continue to hang out with your uncle and his family on a regular basis, they adore his 3 adult children and talk about them in front of you every time you see them. They tell you to never let your uncle's family know about what happened and tell you that you should be-friend the kids and wife. They try to get you to hang out with that family all of the time and even try to get you to let the kids come to your home for a visit.
This is what I'm dealing with right now. My brothers feel that the kids and wife did nothing wrong so I should keep this secret and give them a chance. They want me to be-friend that family and I refuse. They are trigger objects, they give me panic attacks every time someone talks about them. I want my family to not speak about those people in front of me ever again and I NEVER want to meet them or have get togethers. In your honest opinion, who is right? Am I the bad guy for not giving these innocent people a chance or are my brothers wrong for trying to push them on me?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 4:48 PM on Feb. 12, 2011 in Relationships
The feelings you have are completely legit. You should not have to be around people that make you uncomfortable. You owe those people nothing.
Answer by dancinintherain at 4:51 PM on Feb. 12, 2011
I would think your family would be more supportive. I dont think this is a good secret to keep. I dont blame you not wanting to meet them. even though they are innocent. maybe seeing a therapist will help you resolve some of these issues.
Answer by proudmom611 at 4:52 PM on Feb. 12, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 4:52 PM on Feb. 12, 2011
Answer by liteofmine71 at 4:53 PM on Feb. 12, 2011
Answer by Iluvautumn at 4:57 PM on Feb. 12, 2011
Answer by Scuba at 4:59 PM on Feb. 12, 2011
Answer by oregonmom22 at 5:04 PM on Feb. 12, 2011
Answer by shay1130 at 5:08 PM on Feb. 12, 2011