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How can you get an adult son to realize you must move for financial reasons and so must he?

Son is an adult (as mentioned); has lived with me this time for seven years, being divorced, I have always been his mainstay and emotional support (even though he has lived on his own before); financially, I can no longer support the place where we live and need to move to an adult 55+ community in another state (where he does not qualify); bad economic times and he has no job at present.  Because of his finances, I am worried about how he will face this new development and make it on his own.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 8:03 PM on Feb. 12, 2011 in Adult Children (18+)

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  • ~*Honesty*~... flat out, this is the plan we're making and this is the time line, you too need to do the same
    MommaClark3

    Answer by MommaClark3 at 8:06 PM on Feb. 12, 2011

  • You do what YOU have to do. He's an adult. If he doesn't want to move with you then he doesn't have to, he can get his own place or find a room-mate.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:06 PM on Feb. 12, 2011

  • When you load the truck. He will understand.
    tootoobusy

    Answer by tootoobusy at 8:06 PM on Feb. 12, 2011

  • why does he have to move? if he lives with you perhaps he should move out and then you wont have to move
    LuvMyMedic3ID

    Answer by LuvMyMedic3ID at 8:06 PM on Feb. 12, 2011

  • If he is an adult why does he have to move if you are? Can he find his own place and stay if that is what he wishes to do?
    kmath

    Answer by kmath at 8:11 PM on Feb. 12, 2011

  • Just do it. He'll have to figure it out And it will be good growth for him.
    thelowlander

    Answer by thelowlander at 9:39 PM on Feb. 12, 2011

  • You have to be honest with him. He needs to stand on his own two feet and should never have been completely dependent upon you for housing, etc. Even it if was a menial part time job, he should have been contributing to the household expenses.

    Just tell him it is time for him to be the adult that he is and to stand on his own. That for your health, and financial well being you are having to move to a location that he doesn't qualify for.
    twinsplus2more

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 10:20 AM on Feb. 13, 2011

  • He will be fine. He has to grow up. Mom won't always be around and he needs to learn that now
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 10:45 PM on Feb. 13, 2011

  • Tell him it's time for baby bird to spread his wings and fly! He needs to be a grown up and be responsible for himself. Don't feel guilty!!!!! Good luck!
    twinkletoes0408

    Answer by twinkletoes0408 at 4:49 PM on Feb. 15, 2011

  • Time to cut the apron strings ~
    tasches

    Answer by tasches at 6:53 PM on Feb. 15, 2011

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