I am a little worried that my recently turned 4 year old son has stated to me that he is sad to be a boy. For the past two years we have been pretty liberal with allowing him to do what he wants and watch what he likes. He was very into princesses and even when watching "boy" shows he would seem to identify with the female characters so we would buy him the female action figures to play with so he would normally pretend to be females in his role play.
We took him to Disneyworld at 3 1/2 and he had fun taking pictures and meeting all the princesses. He has also been into Dora, etc. When he turned 4 last month we started taking away the "feminine" movies and tried to start him watching more masculine shows but he doesn't really seem to be taking to any of them.
He likes to jump around a lot and is a very active child who loves playgrounds, water activities etc. but he has never really been into truly "boy" things like cars, trucks, trains, tools, sports, etc. He also likes to wear my shoes (although I think this comes from one of the shows he watches called Franny's Feet), but he doesn't really care to wear my husband's shoes when he has the chance. He likes light colours like green, yellow, and sometimes pink.
After he stated he was sad to be a boy and why we didn't make him a girl, we took him to toys r us to cheer him up and told him he could pick any toy in the store. He basically ignored the boys section and picked up all "girly" items including a Snow White costume which he wanted.
His best friends are boys and he plays well with boys when around them. His teachers don't notice anything unusual at school but my feeling is that he gets along better with the girls and would probably prefer to play with the girls at the kitchen set then with the boys doing other things.
Is my son having gender issues? is he responding to the fact that we took his feminine comfort toys away? is he going to be gay or does he truly want to be a girl?
So many questions are going through our minds right now as to what to do? Were we wrong to so heavily allow his princess and "girl" tendencies? What do we do now? Should we try to curtail his "feminine" interests.
Please help if anyone has had similar situations. I wouldn't be concerned if he had one or two female tendencies if he had a balance of "male" tendencies.
Does anyone else have experiences
Asked by Anonymous at 9:00 PM on Feb. 12, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by mrsmom110 at 9:08 PM on Feb. 12, 2011
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Answer by MommaClark3 at 9:20 PM on Feb. 12, 2011
If it were me in your shoes I would go see a child psychologist perhaps not to "change" him but to answer your questions and help you in deciding what changes if any you can make. I'm not going to lie. I'd be really worried but that's just my close mindedness. I can admit it. Knowing is better than guessing.
Answer by RentaMom at 9:48 PM on Feb. 12, 2011
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