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A Mothers Love?

Why do some children who are fostered or adopted out, when they come into contact with the woman who gave them life, choose to love that woman (and feel the woman who gave them life, loves them) by calling her mom while seeing themselves as that womans child. While other children placed for adoption/put into foster care only choose to see the woman/or women who raised them as there Mother/s to love and those children see that womann/or women who raised them as the woman/or women that is the Mother or Mothers that love them. And can a child really have 1 or more Mothers that they can love equally and who the child feels loves them equally?

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 8:00 PM on Feb. 13, 2011 in Adoption

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Answers (3)
  • As a person who places CPS children into foster/adoptive homes -- I can tell you absolutly they can love 2 women. With the older children, it seems to be out of a sense of loyalty that they still iove the bio mom. With the little ones, they simply want to be loved and cared for -- the more arms the merrier -- this is even the case when those parents have physically abused them.
    BaileysMom476

    Answer by BaileysMom476 at 8:14 PM on Feb. 13, 2011

  • I think the one who gave birth is a generous type of love. Just to put thought into the birth, the 9 months (or how long) of being pregnant and having to be safe, rested, warm, and pulling pretty great health, (or not) but to come out at the end of the time carrying the child ; is much as in weight of being a mom. Giving up your child or having to place it out, is a generous. generous. love.

    The real mom who raises the child or the dad, or both that brought up the child is considered a great person just as well, but to compare them and give one credit over the other, no, it can't be done.
    coffeeyum

    Answer by coffeeyum at 8:04 PM on Feb. 13, 2011

  • Can a mother really love two children?

    If a mother can really love two children, then why can a child not love two mothers? After all, children love two grandmothers all the time!
    DDDaysh

    Answer by DDDaysh at 9:53 PM on Feb. 13, 2011

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