Hi, everyone. I am going to attempt to make a long story short. I have known this guy for 4 years. We met and I didn't want to be exclusive with him, due to the fact that I was about to start college and my job was taking a lot of my time as well. We had a strictly physical relationship, until he said he wanted more. We stopped talking. Then, about 8 months later, we saw each other at the gym. We started hanging out, again. then we stopped because of the same reason as the first time. We would always cuddle and hang out and talk... and occasionally he would go places with me (i.e., shopping; running errands). The next time I ran into him last year, in a rather odd place, a strip club, actually LOL I was with my friend who is a lesbian. We started hanging out and having sex AGAIN... it only happened like 2 times... and I noticed that he was acting different, like he wasn't as into me as he was before. I figured it was because of me never wanting to commit. However, at this time, I was done with school and had just started a successful career in a lab at a rather large medical practice. I felt like I was ready for a relationship, and started to develop feelings for him. It didn't work out, he said he was going through some things that would prevent us from having the relationship we once did. I had a feeling this was another woman, but I didn't want to pry. I left him alone and kpet it moving. I never told him how I was feeling about him.
So, about 2 weeks ago, I was snowed in and I was thinking about something and he popped up. I started genuinely thinking about how he is, and I don't think about other people and their well-being. This struck me as odd. I found him on Facebook, and I messaged him. I asked how he has been casually. He gave me his number off the bat and we talked that night for 2 1/2 hours! I felt so comfortable, it was like we never even stopped talking. I told him what I have been up to, he told me that he is doing well. The reason he couldn't talk to me last year was because he was getting out of a bad relationship and he didn't want to bring me into that drama. It all makes sense now. Anyway, we have hung out a few times and I am REALLY starting to have strong feelings for him. I want to talk to him ASAP about this, but I don't know how to go about it. I have no idea where to start! I want to be with him and I do NOT do well with these things. I am planning on calling him VERY SHORTLY so if anyone has any advice on how I should do this and what to say, PLEASE HELP!!!
Answer by suhweetness at 9:01 PM on Feb. 13, 2011
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