I am very grateful that dd's stepmom loves her, but it is starting to get to the point where I feel like she and my ex are trying to push me out of the picture. She calls me Mama Laura and talks to me about "her" kids, my daughter included. When I have dd, she tells me how much she misses her and wants her to come home. Um, last I checked I was the mother! How can I deal with this? I am afraid that talking to her will yield nothing except a halting of this to my face. when it is important that it stops with dd, too. While I want my daughter to be happy with her stepmom, I don't want to be treated like I'm the stepparent, even behind my back. I think there is a balance that they just don't get. They treat me like I don't love her as much when that is definitely not the case.
Answer by Deelatte at 9:07 PM on Nov. 17, 2008