My stepson has made it his goal to convince his father that I am the wicked stepmom like in the Disney films. We have always gotten along (he chose to live with us his last 3 years of high school) until this last year. He moved out and lives with friends. We also have four other children (blended family 2/3 his/mine). We have given each of our children the same amount of money per month to help with college/living expenses for four years total time per child. We also help with dr copays and car repairs. My stepson feels he is entitled to more ...extra money whenever he needs it. He has a drug problem and recently he was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. He refuses to get help and the few times he did go to the dr he lied and didn't tell them the truth. He has sent his father horrible texts and email calling him names, hanging up on him, ruining family parties, etc. Lately he has turned his anger on me calling me names, blaming me for everything, violating my privacy and now he has told his dad he must choose between me or him. My husband and I know this kids in trouble but with him refusing to get help (and his mom is in denial as well) I fear for my marriage. Any advise on boundaries, or dealing with drug addition and mental illness is very welcomed.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 6:39 AM on Feb. 14, 2011 in Adult Children (18+)
Answer by tootoobusy at 6:43 AM on Feb. 14, 2011
Your DH has to realize that this is his son's drug problem talking. I would calmly tell my DH that his son's rage and dangerous behavior has to do with his drug addiction. I would then stay out of it as much as possible, let your DH communicate with his son. I would join a support group for families with loved ones addicted to drugs, a google search will turn up several. Even if your DH doesn't join the support group with you, there will be valuable information from others and it will show that you have no ill will towards your step-son. Good luck!
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Answer by Cegenetra at 9:45 AM on Feb. 14, 2011
I would stop giving him money. He is using it for drugs. Try to get him in rehab. If he is bipolar then he needs to see a doctor. He has to want help. You and your husband have to stand as one. Good luck.
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