My BF, who is more like a sister, recently gave birth to a full term stillborn son. She is of course grieving the loss of her little boy, who was so precious. The last time I talked to her she was feeling very depressed and stuff.
I am now pregnant but not far along. Unfortunately we live far away from each other and so I will probably have to tell her the news over the phone (or email, or something). I want her to know from me before she finds out from other friends who are less close.
I am really concerned about delivering this news in a way that won't make her feel any worse than it has to. I am sure she will be happy for me, but I also imagine it will be painful for her to watch me go through a (hopefully) healthy pregnancy and then (hopefully) deliver a healthy baby.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I could tell her in the kindest way possible?
Asked by Anonymous at 5:18 PM on Feb. 14, 2011 in Pregnancy
Answer by AshJoe05 at 9:52 PM on Feb. 14, 2011
Answer by huntin_mama at 5:48 PM on Feb. 14, 2011
I would wait a few months before I said anything. Not that she will be fine in a few months but if it just happened to her, give her time to grieve without adding more pain. I kept my Pregnancies from everyone except my immediate family until 12-16 weeks anyway. It's a fragile time.
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 7:08 PM on Feb. 14, 2011
Answer by gapeach7212 at 8:09 PM on Feb. 14, 2011
Answer by michelle6890 at 7:00 PM on Feb. 14, 2011
Answer by summerbear at 11:41 PM on Feb. 14, 2011
Answer by ahsot1230 at 12:08 PM on Feb. 15, 2011
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